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    06-26-2013, 03:22 PM
Unhappy Ranch drama?

I'm not sure I'm posting this in the right section, but here goes
So I've been at a particular ranch for over a year taking lessons. There's always a lot of drama there, but I usually ignored it. But then long story short, my instructor and I got into a big argument and he said he never wanted to talk to me again. Problem is, I take lessons there with a different instructor with whom I get along...and I'm caring for a war veteran's horse while he is out of state.
I'm still allowed at the ranch, but my former instructor spread a lot of nasty gossip about me to people I've never even talked to before. So when I'm there, they stare while I try to go about caring for this poor horse.
I'm too "strong" to just leave the ranch...I think "this too shall pass" and eventually the interest in the gossip and drama will die down...but it's still uncomfortable right now. When I excercise the horse, I have to avoid my former instructor which is awwwwkwarrrrd!

Should I just keep my head up and press on? Has anyone else dealt with immature stables/ranch drama? Thanks everyone :)
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    06-26-2013, 03:51 PM
Well good luck with that.. my ranch is a no drama zone. If that happened at my Ranch I would tell you all to suck it up or you have 30 days to clear out.
We all get along or at least are civil.
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    06-26-2013, 04:29 PM
Thanks! I didn't really do anything wrong, is the issue. I even apologized without needing to apologize for the sake of civility...but it didn't help. It's like school all over again
    06-26-2013, 04:46 PM
Is the instructor on the barns payroll? If so I would think that a talk with his/her boss would help. Or maybe sit down with both boss and instructor and work it out..
    06-26-2013, 04:57 PM
The only thing I could think of is to just be as nice as possible to those who had been told all this negative gossip. They will soon make a judgment about you based on your actions, not on what they hear from someone they know dislikes you.
    06-26-2013, 11:54 PM
Exactly with Tinyliny said. When you do talk to your old trainer, act like nothing happened and be very kind. Forgive and forget, it helps a lot and goes a long way.
    06-27-2013, 12:00 AM
I agree, just go on your merry way and be pleasant to everyone, even the former instructor you fought with. Life is too short to dwell on such nonsense.

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