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post #1 of 18 Old 05-27-2012, 10:46 AM Thread Starter
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Random Vent.. this old guy is going to drive me demented

Some of you may remember a post I made ages back about an old guy who walked up and hit Bandit in the face for no reason....

Anyway, he's still tipping about, sometimes drunk, sometimes not. I've gotten to the stage that I give him a wave and just get on with what I need to do. He sometimes comes up rambling about how he hates this, that and the other. Somedays he'll come up telling me that I'm taking up a good stall that could be used for a better horse than mine.. but like I said, in one ear and out the other.

Anyway, for the first time in a VERY long time, I got out to the yard without either child.. during the day with the sun shining. I got out for a lovely ride and then off down the road for a hack. It was refreshing and something I have missed so so much.

On my arrival back, I proceeded to give Bandit a bath (we only have so many +20 days a year!) and the yard owner arrived back from a P2P with a horse shouting that 2 of the horses had broken out and were on their way down to the main road.

Once everybody calmed down and disaster was averted the old guy came up and told me it was my fault as I had taken my horse out of the paddock! I just looked at him and told him that I had every right to take my horse from the paddock as many times as I wanted to at any stage of the day. It wasn't like I had left the gate open or anything!

Sorry all.. just needed to vent.. my husband looks at me like I've got 10 heads when I babble about the horses and yard. This old guy is really starting to grate on me.. I enjoy the rest of the people there but I dont need to hear about how much he hates life every time I go out there.
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post #2 of 18 Old 05-27-2012, 11:04 AM
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If it were me, he'd have a sour rear end the fourth time.
My policy for many things(mostly when its time to whoop their you know what) is to tell them to stop once, tell them twice, tell someone else who should stop it(BO), and then if nothin' is done, have at it.
Granted he has done physical harm the that isn't necessary. BUT, you could still use that in the instance that you feel he is down right targeting you for harassment.

Start gathering witnesses, and I'm assuming that he does this only when you're with your kids or alone, for a harassment case. It sounds like he's just being a horses ass for no reason at all! Its also ridiculous that he would say anything negative with your children within hearing distance.
I would bring a recorder and have it on and ready for anything he says. Let hubby hear the recordings, and next time take him with you to the barn.
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post #3 of 18 Old 05-27-2012, 11:16 AM
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Is this guy a boarder or an employee? Why is he at the barn drunk? I'd be talking to the BO. If the BO isn't willing to deal with this guy, I'd be ripping him a new one.

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post #4 of 18 Old 05-27-2012, 11:16 AM
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Definitely time to go to the BO with this, if you haven't already. I know it might seem more an inconvenience than anything else, but you never know. Does he do this to anyone else? Does he do this in front of your kids? Maybe this is the first time in a long time because it's the first time he caught you alone to do it....
Just saying, I'd be concerned and a little leery of anyone like this.
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post #5 of 18 Old 05-27-2012, 11:16 AM
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He sounds like a crazy person that always has someone he pins the blame on. Maybe he's old fashioned and thinks women are trouble.. who knows.

I hope he cuts the crap soon and leaves you be. How terribly unkind and unhelpful of him :/

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post #6 of 18 Old 05-27-2012, 12:25 PM Thread Starter
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He's about 70, lives on the property and "works" there. He's a drunk... not to sound bad, thats common enough here and most people think little of it and say "ah, hes fond of a drink". I don't know if it is because I was raised in a different country, but I find it to be quite readily accepted here to drink one's self stupid on a daily basis - something that I don't find acceptable.

I had spoken with the BO regarding him when he hit Bandit. The old guy did come up to me in tears and very apologetic and I suggested to him he cut back on the drink.... he didnt and I have seen him stumbling around on numerous occasions. I also mentioned it to the BO a few weeks back that he was out mouthing off about my horses - the BO told me not to listen to him and tell him where to go if he says anything else.

There aren't really any other boarders, as most of the horses are race horses, and I would be the only female (ex the BO's wife) who is around. I don't know if part of it is he thinks im some stupid girl with her pony? He rambles a bit infront of the kids, but he doesn't hang around them too much. As I had said, I've taken to ignoring him but I just find it frustrating that he is trying to create a blame game where one need not exist. Like I said, I'm just having a moan and a vent - I can't understand why he insists on working with horses when he has no love for them at all. At 70 years of age, he'd be due pension and he's probably make more on jobseekers than he does in wages.

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post #7 of 18 Old 05-27-2012, 12:59 PM
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Does this old guy have a relationship of some type either old family friend or relative with the BO? I'm not sure why if no relationship exists that you would keep such an employee? I would do as you have by avoiding this man at all costs and let him know when he has gone too far i.e. blaming, hitting your horse or maybe your children next? Just stay away from him. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your BO but you could find out why he allows him to stay there? I'm sure there are some good people who could do his job and actually enjoy it and are sober. Hopefully, this situation will change for the better.
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post #8 of 18 Old 05-27-2012, 06:49 PM
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go to your BO this definatly something that could escalate like paintlover said. I think you said something last time anout him having no where else to go? honestly if he's adanger to the horses then, too bad for him the safetyof the horses and people on the porerty shpould come first

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post #9 of 18 Old 05-27-2012, 07:56 PM
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Ah that's not good :(

I remember your last post about him before.

There isn't a lot you can do, the BO obviously knows about his behaviour and disregards it, and it's not like they are going to believe what he says so I don't think your reputation is in question. But if they had a real problem with him they would have asked him to leave, so they've probably decided to just deal with it.

He hasn't interfered with your horse again, like you requested, has he? Or harmed any others? If he had, I'd move or demand he leave, but if not he's probably just rambling on as people do. Talk can be rude and unkind, but I don't think it puts anyone in danger.

He's obviously not the best example of a human being, but I can understand why the BO would let him stay. I think it would be pretty bad to kick a 70 year old out, especially if he had nowhere to go and if he's been there a while, even if his behaviour was bad. I know these days everyone is like "out for themselves" and about "personal rights" but I do think we each owe a responsibility to the weakest members of our community. Perhaps you can talk to the BO about requesting the guy does not approach you at all, or again call this guy on his behaviour.

It's a tricky situation. I can understand why he is driving you completely crazy. :(
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post #10 of 18 Old 05-27-2012, 08:02 PM
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Can you talk to the Bo? Is he a boarder there?
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