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    09-29-2013, 08:53 PM
  #1
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Really!? I don't have any words...

This is a bit of a rant, so I'm sorry in advance.

Unfortunately a couple years ago I bought a horse that SO was not for me. He was dangerous and too green for me to handle. I ended up putting him up for free two years after I'd bought him- full disclosure that he had a rearing problem and would NOT go to anyone with children, I would sooner have had him put him down than see somebody get hurt.

At the time somebody sent me a message saying she knew the horse and knew the breeder and couldn't believe anything I said about him because "the breeder doesn't produce horses with problems like that". She had emailed me AND texted me about this horse, I told her yes, he did have problems, and it wasn't any of her business unless she wanted to take him on. I'd had multiple trainers work with him, my current trainer said he was the most untrainable horse she'd ever sat on.

EVENTUALLY we did find him a home, a friend of a friend took him for free, an adult with lots of experience (he came back a few months later and said he'd "fixed" the problem and offered him back to us, we didn't take him). Now, more than a year after I sold him the same lady sent me a message over Facebook (how she remembered who I am is beyond me) JUST to inform me that he went through the auction and sold for $500. Now who knows, maybe she just wants me to be "in the know" but you don't track somebody down after a year + if you don't want to make them feel bad. It's like she thinks I should feel guilty for giving him away and news flash I wasn't the one who sent him to the auction.

I feel bad, because sometimes he was a very nice, very "cuddly" horse but that doesn't change the fact that under saddle he was an absolute nut case. And now I'm just upset- so THERE is my rant, cookies if you read it.
     
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    09-29-2013, 09:01 PM
  #2
Weanling
I knew a horse that was the same way. The horse was so bad. If you came any were near him with a saddle he will pull back flip over backwards and go crazy. He would run into tree...etc. He was bad. We found out some older cowboys from the past got a hold of him and beat him with a heavy saddle on. They would load it up with rocks. So when he went to do something stupid he would get so tired soon after he would just give up. However that's not what happened. He would keep going even if he was shaking and foaming all over his body. The thing was. He was fine if you road him bare back. You could get on him. No prob, he would stand there and fall a sleep. But if he tried to get a saddle near him. That was it.
     
    09-29-2013, 09:05 PM
  #3
Yearling
Sometimes its best to be out of the "in the know" zone.

I've never had this experience, but once I sold my other horse I kinda just stopped talking to his new owner about a few weeks after I sold him. I love him and everything, and sure would like to know how he's doing once in a while, but I don't know if I would want to know if he died, was sold, etc. I would feel guilty and start blaming myself and everything.

Hope you get through this okay. Never easy.
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    09-29-2013, 09:06 PM
  #4
Trained
You did absolutely nothing wrong. If anything, you waited too long to get rid of him. He was out of your comfort zone and beyond your training abilities.

She feels that him going to auction and getting $500 for him is GOOD? The meat man probably would have paid $300-$400 depending on his size/condition. Its actually almost laugh-worthy to be honest.

If he would have sold for $5000+, now there's something to brag about. But quite frankly, a $500 is nothing these days. Most horses going that cheap are coming from homes that can no longer afford them, have problems (mentally or physically) or have little to no training.

You did nothing wrong. Don't give that crazy lady the time of day. She obviously has nothing better to do then stalk people.
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    09-29-2013, 09:15 PM
  #5
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Apparently not! I did end up messaging her back, she says he rode through like a star- well it's easy to send a horse through an auction house and cover up bad behaviour. I do honestly hope that his rearing issue was corrected (it was an attitude problem, I had him checked by vet, farrier and chiropractor / saddle fitter)- it had gotten to the point that the second you asked him to go forward and he decided he didn't want to he would be straight up in the air.

I'm just upset I got the message in the first place, over a year and she found me on Facebook of all places? Lol it's kind of amazing...

CLaPorte, I did wait to long to get rid of him. I DID really like him (on the ground, hanging out in the pasture) and I was way too attached to him. Anyway, the news is upsetting and I wish she hadn't said anything because now I don't know whether or not I hope he went to a riding home. I hope he did, because I was attached to him but I hope he didn't because what if he hurts someone.
     
    09-29-2013, 10:00 PM
  #6
Trained
Don't think about what if's. He is out of our possession and control, the lady that emailed you was rubbing it in your face, don't give her the satisfaction of that.
     
    10-01-2013, 05:26 PM
  #7
Showing
The only thing wrong about this situation is she could have done something for this horse, instead of telling you about him via fb as an attempt to guilt trip you.

You made your decision and you are not in the wrong for it.
     
    10-01-2013, 05:33 PM
  #8
Green Broke
She was just being a mean B by FBing you that she sold him, and he rode just fine.
She was just doing that to let you know she got money for him.
If he rode in nicely, then he must have gotten his issues fixed, as auctions are high stress and seem to bring out the worse behaviour. He is probably in a better home now and someone is happy at the deal they got .
     
    10-01-2013, 06:54 PM
  #9
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I know that your rant is about the woman being mean, & I agree that it sounds like she wanted to get her digs into you, but I have to say that I feel sorry for all the horses out there who had no problems till people got in the mix. :( Horses aren't ever bad, they're just horses. The horse with the terror of the saddle - human screw-up. He still allowed people to ride him bareback, what a good horse!

It's sad that so many horses today are getting sent down the road because the trainer said "This one's untrainable", etc. Unless the horse is a true loco, which means he can't relate to his herd members properly at pasture (thus wouldn't've survived in a wild herd), or isn't in physical pain, then it's a people problem.
     
    10-01-2013, 07:09 PM
  #10
Yearling
As a horse owner selling their horse, you can only do what you can do to insure the buyer is credible and he will have a good home. It is hard but once you did all you could, it's done. That lady is a b#%#ch for saying that to you whether true or not.
     

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