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        03-17-2013, 11:31 PM
      #11
    Weanling
    Also... there's a difference between being implusive and being sure that, knowing the pros and cons, this is your horse. You never know if someone will purchase the horse in the meantime (not to put pressure... but it's happened to me before ).

    For my boy, I saw him, rode and fell in love... went back a second time, rode again and learned more about his "cons" but at the end of the day I knew another buyer was going to buy if I didn't. So I did the math, knew that I loved him and pulled the trigger!
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        03-17-2013, 11:35 PM
      #12
    Foal
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    Originally Posted by existentialpony    
    I already like this mare and think you'll have a lovely time with her! But here's what I say:

    If you're uncomfortable, always have the owner do it first. From picking up feet to round-penning to riding. Ask to see it all. *Then* don't be afraid to ask to do it yourself. Take your time, see how you feel on her-- trust is very important! (Specifically, what I would want to see based on how she's ridden in the video, see how she behaves on a loose rein, then if she'll accept contact or duck behind it, etc.) But keep in mind, riding a new horse for the first time can have its hitches as you learn one another-- this is to be expected. Go with your gut.

    Listen to every little thing that is said and don't be afraid to ask questions, even if you think that they're silly or too forward (ie. Does she do x y z? Has she done a b c before?). Ask for specifics!

    Take your friend's honest criticism. Don't look for what you want to hear, because I guarantee after seeing this little lady you will. ;)

    With horses, it isn't always a matter of "the one." Make a list of your basic requirements, of semi-requirement "perks," and if she has them and vets sound... why not?! You have her lifetime to make your partnership even more solid. :) Just make sure that you get along and that you are comfortable.

    I'm excited for you! Best of luck!!
    Thank you! Your response made me feel a lot better! I will definitely be asking a lot of questions, and I honestly don't think I'll be uncomfortable as I've actually been riding a lot of different horses lately and I'm usually fine :)

    Yeah, I think I'm really going to have to work to listen to any cons that my friend has about her! XD But I know I'll ultimately take her advice.
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        03-18-2013, 12:08 AM
      #13
    Green Broke
    As said, always get the owner to do it first.

    Try everything. Do everything, ask heaps of questions.

    I don't think the "one" exists, each horse has its positives and its negatives and its about finding a balance that suits you, and there are many horses out there that fulfill this.

    Don't feel pressured into committing. I never commit until I go home and sleep on it. Yes I might lose the perfect horse, but that's just a risk I take. I always take pictures while there and look at them later, think on what I saw and what was said.

    Be aware that the horse will likely change to the new place. So if the horse is borderline suitable (as in a bit skittish but you can deal with it) at home, at a new place they are going to be worse.

    Finally, if for some reason you get the wrong horse you don't have to keep it for 8 years.
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        03-18-2013, 05:55 PM
      #14
    Foal
    Good luck. Looks like a nice horse.

    As a second time horse buyer, I did in the long run end up buying the first horse I looked at. And he has worked out really, really nicely.

    But I forced myself to keep looking. Looked at several horses on line; forced myself to try out another horse; and went back three times (once with a more experienced horse person than I) before I bought him.

    He fit my major criteria and then some. And fell a bit short on some minor criteria. All in all, he fit the bill. So, all I can say is make sure that it's not an impulse buy. It might still go wrong, but at least you won't kick yourself.

    PS: I'm sorry you aren't able to sell the first horse; that places even more pressure on this decision. When I bought my horse, the seller was very willing to take back the horse if he didn't work out.

    Hope this helps. :)
         
        03-18-2013, 10:36 PM
      #15
    Foal
    Well, I went and looked at her.. and I'm having conflicting feelings.

    She was super responsive, really quiet, and very sweet.. But she definitely has a lot of go go go, which I'm not sure I'm ready for quite yet. I felt safe on her, and she wasn't crazy or anything, but I really had to work to hold her back.

    She's had a 3 month break, she was in a strange environment that she's only been at for about 6 days, and her previous owner only occasionally trail rode on her, and when she did it was "oh I'm going to get you out of the pasture where you've been sitting and go go go on the trail" which, she didn't treat her bad or anything, but that's all she knows.

    So here's my dilemma, I can take a chance and buy her, see how much she relaxes once I get her home and bond with her a little bit, and if she's still not relaxed enough I could send her to a good trainer who could try to fix it. But what if she can't be changed? It's not that I don't like her, because I really do, but she just isn't relaxing to ride right now. Which is what I'm really looking for. Opinions? :)
         
        03-18-2013, 10:46 PM
      #16
    Banned
    By your post, my opinion is keep looking. I'm not getting that "this is an awesome horse" feeling from you. If you are looking for a relaxing ride and she's not it, move on.

    The one thing I would say is don't be afraid to give it a couple days and go try her again. Her being in a strange environment with a new rider could have her a bit confused and unsure.
         
        03-18-2013, 10:50 PM
      #17
    Foal
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    Originally Posted by BBBCrone    
    By your post, my opinion is keep looking. I'm not getting that "this is an awesome horse" feeling from you. If you are looking for a relaxing ride and she's not it, move on.

    The one thing I would say is don't be afraid to give it a couple days and go try her again. Her being in a strange environment with a new rider could have her a bit confused and unsure.
    She really is an awesome horse, but I do get the feeling that she's not for me, as much as I want her to be. I might go back and give her another try later this week, but it's kind of a far drive out there so I'll just have to see how it goes :)
         
        03-18-2013, 10:57 PM
      #18
    Banned
    Well good luck to you! You'll find one. Can't tell you how many I looked at before I found mine. He was worth the wait though :)
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        03-18-2013, 11:31 PM
      #19
    Foal
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by BBBCrone    
    Well good luck to you! You'll find one. Can't tell you how many I looked at before I found mine. He was worth the wait though :)

    Yeah, I'm totally fine with waiting for the right one. :)

    You're boy is gorgeous, by the way!
         
        03-19-2013, 12:06 AM
      #20
    Foal
    For $4500 I expect a well trained horse, not one I'm thinking of sending off to the trainer just so I can trail ride it and feel comfortable on it.
         

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