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    10-24-2010, 07:33 PM
Is it really worth it?

I hate to say it, but I think I might be giving up on horses.
Yes, I love horses. But is it worth spending all my teen years wishing for one? Am I wasting my time? Will I regret it? I feel 50/50 on this. I know horses will probably "save" me in the long run-but what if my dad was lying to me this whole time? He says he "needs some time to pay off the new house bills", I totally respect that. But what if he doesn't believe in me? What if I have spent this whole time preparing for a horse, and then end up never getting one- I would have wasted my time. Am I right? I just don't know what to think. Is it even reallistic? Please help
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    10-24-2010, 07:40 PM
You don't have to have a horse through your teen years to be involved with horses. It sounds to me like your dad really wants to be able to get you a horse, but the expense is just too great right now. It costs a lot to keep a horse, and you must always have money in reserve for the 'just in case' moments; nobody wants to have to tell their child that they have to put the pet down because they can't afford treatment. It's a financial drain on those of us without children, and even more so if you have kids. It's more than just another bill, because there is always the very real possibility of a large, unexpected vet bill at the same time as other bills- and to keep your head afloat and to keep your credit scores high, you need to be able to plan for any emergencies.
Perhaps instead of pushing for your own horse, you start taking lessons at a barn, and maybe discuss leasing a horse? Leasing gives you the horse-owning experience without the expense, and it's a great alternative for those who aren't 100% ready to own. You do not need to own a horse to be involved with them.
    10-24-2010, 07:40 PM
Should you stop dreaming? Never
    10-24-2010, 07:44 PM
Another thing- a lot of people ride through their childhood and teens, but never own until they're adults. Some people ride their entire lives and never own a horse.
    10-24-2010, 07:49 PM
I love you guys:)
    10-24-2010, 07:57 PM
I just got one yesterday. I'm 18, and now have my first horse. I have a job and I'm in college, but I love it. It's my dream and I could never give it up. If you really love it, you'll eventually find a way to make it work.
    10-24-2010, 08:09 PM
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I got Lacey when I was 18. I had completely given up on ever owning a horse until I was probably 40 but then, at 18, everything just came together so I could get a horse. Mind you, I didn't get much choice in the horse I got, my trainer thought we would work and Lacey's owner thought we clicked, so Lacey was given to me after the converging opinions of those two ladies, and it really had nothing to do with whether I wanted her or not (of course I wanted her, but yknow).
Then, since then I've just gotten really lucky. I've had friend after friend let me keep her places for free and I just get lucky with hay, somehow we never run out of good hay. My parents have never had to help me money-wise with her up-keep and that by itself is a miracle.

Don't worry, you'll probably end up with a horse as soon as you've given up on owning one anytime soon. And don't give up on spending time with horses. The more experience you have, the more likely good things will come your way, imo. Like Lacey's owner, my trainer told her that I knew my stuff and that I had done a lot of training on various horses (Lacey needed lots of training) so her owner was willing to give her to me since she knew she was going a to a good place.

Don't worry, it'll happen eventually. Never stop dreaming. :)
    10-24-2010, 08:51 PM
Yep...I was painfully horse crazy all through my childhood and teens. I rode when I could but when I was around 19, I had basically accepted the fact that it just wasn't in my cards, and I couldn't even see myself owning a horse in adulthood with my chosen career path. I still loved them with all my heart, but had grown resigned to knowing that I was not one of the "lucky people".

Well. Interesting how things work out. At 20, events began falling into place and my mother and I combined funds to buy a little arab mare. Some months later I bought my gelding. I'm 21 now! I am being allowed to stay at home as I get my BA so I have at least two years left to enjoy them thoroughly, and even when I leave for grad school I have a horse crazy parent and a small ranchette on which I know they'll always be safe. It's given me hope that if I work at it, I can have a horse and my job as well.

Don't give up. :)
    10-24-2010, 09:14 PM
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Wannahorse, my post will probably depress you, but that isn't my intention.

I was horse crazy for as long as I can remember. Didn't start actually riding until I was a young teenager and could pay for the time myself (rode at a local stables, no lessons). I read everything there was about riding and would put into practice what I'd read (this was way before VHS!).

When I was a young married lady, my husband suggested I take lessons for something to be my own thing away from family responsibilities. That in turn lead to leasing a couple for a year. More lessons and than working/volunteering at a couple of barns.

It wasn't until I was in my 40's that I bought (or more accurately my husband bought for me as a b-day gift) my horses.

I feel for me, waiting to own was the right choice for me. I learned everything I could and got to put what I learned (not just riding, but handling and training and horse keeping) into practice when I was at the two barns. When my horses came home, I was ready financially, had the time, experience and abilities to take care of them and everything that comes with them.

I look back on those early years as a type of "school". Had that safety net of experienced horse people to help guide me while learning everything I could.

Get your horse fix (lessons/riding/talking), don't worry about owning one just yet. It will happen if you want it to, just might not be as soon as you want. In the mean time, soak up everything you can, it is never wasted.

You are a very level headed, thoughtful young lady (from what I have gathered by previous posts and threads), and you will be fine. I know it's tough to be patient (not one of my virtues!), but we've all been there in one capacity or another.

Wish you the absolute best!
    10-25-2010, 02:31 PM
If going into horses is something you want to do, just be patient. The opportunity will show itself when the time comes. :)

When I was younger and didn't have any exposure to horses besides the annual 30 minute trail ride, I used my birthday money to buy hoof picks, brushes and buckets, and I slept with them in my bed. No dream is too unrealistic, too far off, or too big. Don't give up--always pursue what makes you happy.

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