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post #1 of 7 Old 02-19-2013, 01:08 PM Thread Starter
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Rekindled Passions!

Hey there! I'm a newbie but I hope to settle in well.

I remember being around 8 or 9 when I got my first horse. I was head over heels for horses, knew almost everything about them and loved her so much. Sadly, because I lived in a city and she was boarded two hours away with a relative I rarely saw her and in time our funds ran dry and we had to sell her. For over a decade I really bedded down a lot of my love for horses because of where I was living. Of course, plenty of other animals entered my life and left it but now, at 20 and in college, I finally have a friend who is also a horse person and I'm remembering just how much I loved being around them.

So, here's the problem... I'm terrified to adopt/buy a horse without knowing I can care for them fully. I'm a college student and in my third year as a psychology major, but lately my mind is barely on my studies. I'd much rather be out in the field! I can't see my friend's horse as often as I'd like and beyond it all I have to accept that she's not MY horse and there's a bond there that can't form. I'm not sure what I should do!
I'm taking a horsemanship class to get a refresher on things I might have forgotten or learned wrong but it's still not as much time as I'd like to be out. How do you balance something that you're not really loving as much anymore but are so close to finishing and something that genuinely makes you happy but you cant afford?
It's also very important to me to help my mental health. School stress has worsened my physical and mental health horribly in the last year but being with horses helps a lot...
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post #2 of 7 Old 02-19-2013, 01:10 PM
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Why not lease? Or volunteer at a theraputic riding center?
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post #3 of 7 Old 02-19-2013, 01:11 PM
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If you don't have the financial means to support a horse, it's not fair to the animal to buy it.

Take lessons and maybe lease a horse until you're in situation where you CAN afford to own.

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Even before you can afford a horse, I would suggest lessons, gets you in shape for riding, teaches you proper technique and gives you an idea of what kind of horse you might want to purchase in the future. Also, when taking lessons at a barn, it gets you into the horse community and you might find a good lease.
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post #5 of 7 Old 02-21-2013, 02:48 PM
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I actually see the school counselor, and he recommended that I spend more time with my horses.

They are GREAT for stress issues. For an HOUR or whatever time I spend with them, my mind is 100 percent on the horses, and not on school or real life crap. It's honestly the only time my mind is silent.

Lease a horse! Spend time with it, enjoy it, and once you get your "fix" you should have renewed vigor at school. When you are more settled, you can worry about buying.

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post #6 of 7 Old 02-21-2013, 02:53 PM
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If you buy a horse, what happens when you can't find a job after graduating? I would wait until after you have graduated and found a secure job before getting a horse. They're plenty of options other then buying. You just dont know what your life will be like 2 or 3 years from now. Lessons or leasing is your best option.

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post #7 of 7 Old 02-21-2013, 04:26 PM
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I have the same issue, although I only just started studying, and have 3-5 years to go... I take lessons twice a week, and am looking to volunteer at a therapeutic riding center, but it is hard to balance it with school, work and my relationship, especially since I'd do nothing rather than being at the barn all day (even if I'd only be mucking out!) I guess it doesnt help that my uni is across the street from my barn and from the classrooms it has a view over the racetrack xD I spend a LOT of time daydreaming about riding and owning a horse, and planning things out, making building plans for my future barn etc.

Leasing is not really an option I think, since I dont think it is done here in Argentina, at least not on a regular basis. My barn is a showstable, where the grooms take care of everything, so helping out there is not really an option either. I hope it works out with the therapeutic center, because I need more horsetime!!
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