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post #1 of 14 Old 12-29-2012, 07:45 PM Thread Starter
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Reminding everyone to be genuinely thankful

I just think that maybe some of my sorrow, confusion, understanding, and experience might help other people, so why not write about it?

I used to be a lesson rider, 1 or 2 days a week. Then, everything changed when I got my own horse. I was a 3 or 4 day a week, consistent, committed rider. I felt courageous and amazing going on the trail with my stoic mare, or outstandingly tough after doing a deep-seated (kinda, hehe) canter in an old beat up english saddle. Even if I got to ride around the barn parking lot under the fluorescent lights, or took a goofy picture riding bareback, it was wonderful.

I consider myself to be a grateful person, but I definitely know I have a way to go. We all do, I believe, personally, because we aren't perfect, and the more we acknowledge that we aren't perfect, the closer to perfection we will become... although we won't reach that full perfection as long as we're alive because, well, we're human.

As I became closer to my horse, our bond grew both in and off the saddle. We had our fair share of challenges, of "learning experiences", and priceless memories.. I'll never forget our first ride, trotting into the moonlight... it was the biggest moon I'd ever seen.

However, as I became closer to my horse, I became more serious about riding. If I couldn't grasp a concept on my inexperienced mare, I would get frustrated with myself. I would become angry with myself. I was grateful for my mare, but I shed some unnecessary tears. I focused on the silly parts of riding, and forgot to be grateful for the fact that I was riding. We were progressing. We didn't have perfect rides all the time, but that made the perfect rides (probably far from it, but it felt like it) even more worthwhile.

The past couple months, things have been pretty downhill. My 5 year old gorgeous little mare was diagnosed with osteoarthritis. A few days ago, I sat on her back, and tried to get her to move forward, and it felt like she was trying to buck me off. She's not sound. How could I have complained (several months ago) about not getting her into her dressage frame consistently, when now I can't even ride her in a straight line? I don't know if this will be the case for now, or forever with my babygirl, but that doesn't change the fact that she is my best friend, and I love her so much. I wouldn't dare leave her side, even if it's not always easy and "fun and games." I wouldn't trade in the memories that I've had with her, the good and the bad, the character building and the confidence building.

I'm just saying, it's too easy to get caught up in our imperfections and say, "I can't believe how terrible things are going." Instead, we should all be saying, "I can't believe I'm blessed enough to have a horse in my life."
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post #2 of 14 Old 12-29-2012, 09:30 PM
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How old was your horse when you got her?
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post #3 of 14 Old 12-29-2012, 11:12 PM
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You're so right, sometimes we can get so wrapped up in daily life that we forget to be thankful for the things we do have in our lives........

My horses are the joy in my life.....
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post #4 of 14 Old 12-29-2012, 11:23 PM
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After I got my new horse, I had tremendous challenges and after one very harrowing session in the arena trying to fix something I broke all whilst having a know-all man sit there and watch me the whole time and not offer one iota of help......I ended up getting in my truck and crying all the way home (really not like me!).....really am I this stressed?????

And from that day forward I have chosen to pick something good out of every ride and chose to work on the not so good stuff 'later' (it will be addressed.....when I'm ready.....not because of a desire to be perfect NOW).

A few nights ago I had the arena all to myself and decided to work on lead while loping serpentines I asked for three lead changes across the middle of the arena....I got them, not perfect....he changed leads in the front, loped on the wrong lead in the back for two strides then changed in the back......but he changed....not perfect by any means.......but doable.......

And you know what.....neither of us are the worse for wear.....we are both still alive, happy, healthy and are working together as a team!

I am very thankful......
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post #5 of 14 Old 12-29-2012, 11:27 PM Thread Starter
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I'm so glad to hear that you are a thankful group of people!

I've known my horse for about a year and a half at this point. She was 4 when I got her, now she's 5.
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I had a similar thing happen to my first horse and I love the time we spent just hand walking down the trail so he could graze as I which him eat with my second horse I cherish every day with him ,you never know when the end is near
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post #7 of 14 Old 12-29-2012, 11:40 PM Thread Starter
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That's how you have to be, and I'm glad you realize that.
I'm so blessed to still be around her, to spend time with her, and to be able to love her. I love her so much, my best friend, even though times aren't like they used to be. I'm not sure if they'll get back to "normal" or not, but I will adapt to whatever life we have together.
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She's very young to have this. Do you know how old she was when she was broke? What's her history?

People do things differently, western people here tend to break a horse at 2, personally I wouldn't break a horse until 4-5, but I come from England, where outside of the racing industry, that is the norm.
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post #9 of 14 Old 12-30-2012, 04:45 AM
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Thanks for posting this! I've been having such a frustrating time with my horse lately and his fear of the horse eating machine that got moved to his field. That i've forgotten to be grateful to have him and my other boy Blaze in my life.
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post #10 of 14 Old 12-30-2012, 06:30 AM
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Thanks for sharing, this is a good reminder for me.

Four months ago my mare fell on gravel and shredded her knees down to the joints. I was able to ride her again for the first time on Christmas, but we just walked slowly and even though her wounds have healed I am still not sure if she will be able to do hard riding again.

I rescued this mare three years before her accident, and if there ever was a horse made just for me to ride, she was it. She was full of go, a little rocket. Riding her never failed to thrill me and she would go for miles always asking if she could go faster, farther.

It has been so tempting to think that if she will not be able to go the way she used to, that our time together was too short. Yet you remind me that I had those wonderful three years! How many people get to ride their ideal horse a few times each week for three years?

Also I am thankful that my mare did not break her leg, did not have to be put down, and even has a chance to be what she once was again someday.
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