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    06-04-2009, 11:52 AM
Riding Issues....

About 4 yrs ago I had a very bad riding accident that almost left me crippled if I did not receive surgery. My ankle was broke in at least 6 places, both leg bones broken, the ball off my tibia was broke off etc. Had to have 2 metal plates and about 19 screws to fix. Doctors said it was one of the worst they'd seen and that I was lucky to be still walking.

I know my problem is I overthink things, as I put miles on my green Arabian about 3 yrs ago and had been riding him fairly constant. But, I did put up an ad looking for help to ride my horse, and I met this lady. She's been riding for me for about 2 yrs now and we have become pretty good friends.

Last year, my horse who was not normally a stupid spooky horse, decided to change that. So I went flying last year. I wasnt hurt, but it really did a number on my confidence....again, which was already damaged.

I have been up on him once this year due to my friend (same friend who answered ad) and one of our boarders who wanted me to go with them. I have told them I want to get back into riding. Which is true. I am just afraid.

Which is my problem, my friend does not seem to understand my issue and talks to me as if its nothing which bothers me. I know she is a well meaning person and does not intend to be rude, but sometimes its the way she says things. Sometimes she's like "i thought you wanted to get back into it' and 'whatever' and walks away...leaving me feeling stupid.

I know another lady at our feed store who had a similar accident to mine, and she feels the same way I do...it was nice to hear her say the EXACT same things I am going thru. It really does mess with your mojo...and I don't know how to get it back......
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    06-04-2009, 12:53 PM
That is really sad. I am new to horses so I don't have any good advice for you but I know how you feel. I have had my horse for less then a year and things were going really well until she got fed up with me not knowing what I was doing and started rearing and bolting on me. After getting thrown off a few times my confidence went from about 90% to 0%. I have recently hired a really good personal trainer and he is helping me allot. After just 1 lesson my confidence has gone up to about 65% and I have my second lesson tonight. So I am sure of you really want to get back into it you will in your own time. Good luck!
    06-04-2009, 01:26 PM
Hey, I'm sorry to hear about your confidence. The same thing happened to me (with confidence not the injuries) a year or so back when I was riding my Quarter Horse Rebel (he fits his name >>). He threw me off for no apparent reason while my dad and I were trail riding. My dad caught him before he ran away, so I got back up on him and rode him home, things weren't really the same though after that (with riding rebel). What I would suggest is maybe (if it's possible) riding a different horse. One that's older and very mellow where you have a slight chance of getting bucked off. After some nice easy rides, where no one is getting thrown off, that I beleive would help. Then start riding your Arab again, just short mellow walking rides. Then when you feel comfortable walking him around again work your way up to longer rides and also maybe mixing up some trotting and cantering. I don't really know what kind of riding you do but it's they same general idea for english or western.

I got my confidence back by taking English lessons from a friend on her horse. He's a Quarter Pony and has an awesome attitude for a pony. He does get spooky though and will bolt every once in awhile or develop a mind of his own. After riding him for awhile though, it built up my confidence because it was like "hey, I can handle this" and then I was bring my horse Rebel to her house and riding him again (he's actually there right now lol). Now though, I don't fear Rebel when I get on to take a ride.

Example: This past Monday (June 1st) Rebel threw me off again and ditched me. I was actually riding him to my friends house. Well I had my friend's daughter with me and she was on her dirtbike (he's not afraid of them) so she and I rode double back to my house where I met my dad at the top of the driveway. He had caught Rebel ahead of time (I called him when I was thrown off on my cell) and brought him to me on the rode. So after messing with him and getting him to respect me and stand still, I hopped back on without a fear and attempted the ride back to my friends house (about 5 miles away). I made it just fine. Now if I hadn't worked with horses that were much more mellow than he can be, when he'd thrown me off the other day I would have been scared witless to get back on. (I also have an arab that I ride alot, she's older though and I've never had he even click up her heals with me riding and I've owned her for 5 years she has helped my confidence too)

I'm sorry to hear about your injuries and I know that it must me 100times scarier for you to get on your horse again because of the terrible injuries you sustained. Like I said though, see if you can ride some easy going horses and work your way back up to your Arab by getting a little more spunky horses each time. My line of horses were Dandy (she's a total angel), Bor-dough (that's not how you spell his name but that's how it sounds) he's a little more spirited, Bronte (she's sweet but VERY big 16-almost 17 hands), and now I am riding slowly I'm starting to ride Rebel again!

I hope this helped and sorry my post is so long! I really beleive you can get your confidence back under the right circumstances and I wish you the best of luck!
    06-04-2009, 02:41 PM
Hey thanx for the comments...its not like I want the sympathy...i just want the understanding....

I hired a trainer to train our trakehner this summer and decided to have her do some more training on my horse...i figure it can't hurt. She's also offered to coach me to help gain my confidence back. Which is great...I am just not getting my hopes up...I hired coaches last year (went thru 2)and they stopped coming....maybe they figured I am hopeless?!

I made the decision, however, I don't want to get back on till my round pen is built. Which I am hoping is soon...i figure in the meantime the trainer can work with my horse till then. I want to do Join up with him...which is much easier in a round pen. I just want to make sure I have his respect back before attempting to ride him again.
    06-05-2009, 01:08 PM
That's great!! I hope everything works out okay (which I'm sure it will )! Keep us updated on you and your horse's progress !
    06-05-2009, 03:03 PM
The round pen will help a great deal. It isnt cheap but it's worth it! We made mine out of wood and it costed me about $500. That doesnt include the sand I am going to put in it.
    06-05-2009, 07:44 PM
Thats what I am counting on....with the advice from the trainer...we are making it totally enclosed...so no seeing in our out.

So far with just post and rails...its costing about $250 to make a 70 foot round pen...not including the boards for enclsoing tho...I shopped around for a great deal on wood.

The sand part is scaring me tho....lol
    06-06-2009, 02:24 PM
I had really bad confidence issues after a car accident in which I broke my back. My horse did a little tiny spook and a wee bolt (nothing like he does now, not even close!) and I was sobbing. It was horrid. On the ground, if a horse would spook near me, I would panic. I was honestly scared of my own horses.

Then I got Sam, kind, gentle Sam whom you can bounce balls off of and rub all over with just about anything. He spooks and nothing and falls asleep walking. He was the one to bring my confidence back, both on the ground and in the saddle. Of course, not without the help of my dad.

It was one of my first few times riding and Sam decided to test my skills and refuse to go. He maybe popped an inch of the ground, that freaked me out, bad. I wanted to get off, my dad literally YELLED at me that I'm going to STAY ON THAT HORSE AND MAKE HIM GO. -glare-

So I did...

I was still nervous the first few times but I just kept telling myself Ride him 'till he minds. It kept MY mind off of how scared I was and let me focus at the task at hand.
I knew that if I would fall off, my dad would be there to help me back up. When my mouth would go dry and my heart would pound I'd tell myself to 'Suck it up and stop being such a sissy! It ain't like your ridin' a bronco!'

Now I am extremely confident, adore working with my horses both on the ground and in the saddle. Today I actually haltered, all by myself, my extremely spooky three year old who absolutely hates being haltered and near ran me over at one point. I wasn't afraid, or nervous, I was calm, focused and relaxed. I even plan on saddle training him myself late summer. Something I never, ever, could have dared to do before.

SpringWolf, your confidence is still there, it's just gone into hiding. You gotta drag it...kicking and screaming...out of it's little dark cave and order it to stay put and quit trying to run off like that.
Sometimes it just takes a calm one, and old fart of a horse that won't trot if you begged on your life and plods along in a doze.
    06-06-2009, 07:20 PM
You said some of the things that is exactly my problem....and I know I am being a sissy...i get myself soooo worked up I am balling and almost throwing up. The only thing being different is I am ok handling them from the ground...the mind is truly a powerful thing.

Believe it or not my arab is LAZY...lol (kinda like an oxymoron eh??) he never wants to do hard work if he has to. I've had him since he was 7 (he's 11 now) and he was still a stallion...I put 6 months professional training on him...and even rode him to put miles on. He's had a handicapped teenager on him and was a complete angel...my son has been riding him since he was 12 (he's 16). Last year outta the blue he decides when he's scared he'll bolt...totally blew me away, was sooo disappointed in him.

I had him gelded this year for various reasons...mostly being we turned a different direction in horses and don't have time to promote/money him as a stallion. I love him to death...and would never part with him (we even have the same birthday!!)

I was thinking of taking lessons at another farm who hopefully might help with my issue while I am waiting for my round pen. That way I might build some back up?? Its been so easy to just avoid it, cause as it stands....it wont be coming back without a fight.....

I appreciate everyone's replies and your stories...i hope they can inspire me enough to just get over it.....

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