Is it rude to make an offer, then back out if you find something better? - Page 3 - The Horse Forum
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post #21 of 78 Old 06-25-2013, 07:47 AM
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Shoot, I had a seller sell one out from under me WITH a deposit!

If you know you want to ride english, I would not waste more of the sellers time re-trying the mare. JMHO.

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post #22 of 78 Old 06-25-2013, 08:24 AM
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I would be up front, sincere and honest. Tell her you really like the mare but you found a gelding you really really like. Apologise for wasting her time. I think a good horse person will understand!
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post #23 of 78 Old 06-25-2013, 08:35 AM
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As a seller, I don't think it's a big deal. When I sell a horse, people have the option of calling back and saying that the horse just isn't what they wanted. And over the years, I've had a couple do that.

Purchase price aside, buying a horse is an investment of money and also an emotional one. Get what suits you. That will be best for all involved.
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post #24 of 78 Old 06-25-2013, 08:36 AM
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I think it would be WORSE to buy a horse you are not 100% happy with than to back out of a sale IMHO.

People back out of sales all the time for a whole range of different reasons - sure it might be annoying and inconvenient for the seller and I have had it happened to me. If the gelding is the better horse for you, then buy the gelding and apologise to the owner of the mare. It sounds like they won't have an issue selling the mare anyway.
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post #25 of 78 Old 06-25-2013, 08:43 AM
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I don't see it being rude at all. You gotta do whats best for you and if you have the chance to get a better fit, then go for it. Just my opinion.
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post #26 of 78 Old 06-25-2013, 08:53 AM
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Rude has nothing to do with it. This is a BUSINESS transaction, nothing else. There is no difference in what you are doing here and car shopping. You have found something more compatible and more for you. You have not given any money, a horse has not been moved. They shouldn't be counting chickens before they hatch. If they need an explanation, give them one. You found a better horse, simple as that. If you feel you need to apologize then do so, but I don't think you are being rude at all. Go for the better horse.
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post #27 of 78 Old 06-25-2013, 10:40 AM
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Rude has nothing to do with it. This is a BUSINESS transaction, nothing else. There is no difference in what you are doing here and car shopping. You have found something more compatible and more for you. You have not given any money, a horse has not been moved. They shouldn't be counting chickens before they hatch. If they need an explanation, give them one. You found a better horse, simple as that. If you feel you need to apologize then do so, but I don't think you are being rude at all. Go for the better horse.
Agreed,

If over the years I had a dollar for everyone who said they wanted to buy something or even paced an order and cancelled it the next day, I might be rich......lol...

It is business and people often change their minds.... it is no big deal.....

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post #28 of 78 Old 06-25-2013, 11:53 AM
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Honestly don't think it will be an issue. Call and tell her the truth, you found a horse that is a better fit. I'm sure not everyone is like this, but as a seller, I would be happy that my horse was NOT going to a home where the buyer would not 100% be happy with them. Starting out at less than 100% is not good, and I would gladly keep trying to sell...
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post #29 of 78 Old 06-25-2013, 11:59 AM
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I only read the first page, but frankly, if it's not the horse for you, it's not the horse. And in the US, unless it's in writing, it didn't happen. Sellers know that (or at least they should and so should everyone else in every "agreement" they make), so if they held the horse, they did so at their own risk without a written contract. Whenever I make a verbal contract for selling something, I tell other interested parties that there is a "pending" offer, but if it falls through, oh well. I didn't have anything in writing so nothing is guaranteed. And then I call the other interested people.
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post #30 of 78 Old 06-25-2013, 12:01 PM
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How much are the horses worth? I ask because unless they're worth a huge chunk of money people aren't going to be inclined to make a fuss about 'verbal contracts' as Chevaux has mentioned, lawsuits themselves cost a heck of a lot of money.
If it's not in writing, it didn't happen anyway. That's US law.
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