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        06-25-2013, 11:34 AM
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    ^^^ You know I was teasing ya Lori, right???
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        06-25-2013, 11:36 AM
      #42
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    Originally Posted by Golden Horse    
    I get the people saying my word is my bond, but when buying or selling horses nothing is certain until the horse is on the trailer and cash money has been exchanged.
    Then do not make promises. I agree with everything you said, but just do not promise to take the horse and everyone can be happy!

    EDIT: It is sad what the world has turned into. We say its ok to give your word which means nothing and wonder why the world is the way it is today!!!
         
        06-25-2013, 11:42 AM
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    Originally Posted by nvr2many    
    Then do not make promises. I agree with everything you said, but just do not promise to take the horse and everyone can be happy!

    EDIT: It is sad what the world has turned into. We say its ok to give your word which means nothing and wonder why the world is the way it is today!!!
    From what the OP said, she fully intended on taking the first horse, in which case I don't think she did anything wrong. If she didn't feel that the first horse was the right one for her and so promised to buy the horse even though she intended to keep looking, that would be a different story. However, things happen, and sometimes circumstances change as it seems it has in this case.
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        06-25-2013, 11:47 AM
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    Originally Posted by jillybean19    
    From what the OP said, she fully intended on taking the first horse, in which case I don't think she did anything wrong. If she didn't feel that the first horse was the right one for her and so promised to buy the horse even though she intended to keep looking, that would be a different story. However, things happen, and sometimes circumstances change as it seems it has in this case.
    Agreed!

    EDIT: Butttttttttttttttttttttt the OP never said how she came across this horse that was better suited for her????????????? Did she keep looking after making a promise??? If so that is RUDE!
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        06-25-2013, 11:48 AM
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    Any updates OP?
         
        06-25-2013, 11:54 AM
      #46
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    Originally Posted by nvr2many    
    Agreed!

    EDIT: Butttttttttttttttttttttt the OP never said how she came across this horse that was better suited for her????????????? Did she keep looking after making a promise??? If so that is RUDE!
    It's not rude, things happen. Hey, maybe she should take the mare and then turn around and sell her again straight away, in fact if there is so much interest in the mare she could even make a profit in flipping her!

    Yeah, that's it OP, keep your word, buy a horse you have no intention of keeping, because 'you gave your word'
         
        06-25-2013, 11:57 AM
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    Originally Posted by Golden Horse    
    It's not rude, things happen. Hey, maybe she should take the mare and then turn around and sell her again straight away, in fact if there is so much interest in the mare she could even make a profit in flipping her!

    Yeah, that's it OP, keep your word, buy a horse you have no intention of keeping, because 'you gave your word'
    If this is directed at me you are being ridiculous! I never said I would take the horse that was not right for me, I actually said the opposite if you cared to take the time to read my posts! All I have to say is WOW, just WOW! I'm out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
         
        06-25-2013, 12:36 PM
      #48
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    I felt the need to come back and apologize to the OP. I am sorry for my part in this thread getting heated. But you did ask a question. The question being "Is it rude to make an offer, then back out if you find something better" and the answer is YES, it is. Especially if you kept looking. But sometimes (stuff happens and) we cannot help but be rude and hopefully not make a habit of it.

    If you were asking if we thought you should back out and get the horse better suited to you, then the answer would have been YES you should. But to call the owner now and let her know you are having second thoughts so she is on the same page. The longer you wait, the ruder it is.

    Sooooooooooooooooooo, go get that gelding and please come and show pictures!!!!

    Thank you if you took time to read this!
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        06-25-2013, 01:06 PM
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    Here's my take on it from the seller's point of view.

    #1, I don't ever try to push someone into buying my horse. There's not any of that, "OH but I want YOU to have her.". So to me, that's a stupid move on the seller's part and made you feel obligated.

    #2, No horse is SOLD or off the sales sheet without a signed contract AND a 25% NON-REFUNDABLE deposit to hold the horse until the agreed upon date when the balance is paid.

    #3, No sales deal is truly finalized until the cash is in my hand and the horse is on the trailer headed down the driveway away from here.

    #4, I figure that 99% of the people I deal with are "Hoof Kickers" and won't follow through with buying the horse, no matter what they say.

    So, for courtesy, check out the gelding and make your decision final quickly and release the mare ASAP if you're going to. If the mare really has several buyers ready to jump, then you don't want the seller to lose out because they TOO found other horses.

    As a seller, I wouldn't even be mad if you backed out at this point as long as there's no signed contract and no deposit has been paid. If you backed out after signing the contract and giving me 25% down, I'd still shrug my shoulders and figure I'd rented the horse out for $625 for a few days, not a big deal.
         
        06-25-2013, 02:19 PM
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    Originally Posted by nvr2many    
    Agreed!

    EDIT: Butttttttttttttttttttttt the OP never said how she came across this horse that was better suited for her????????????? Did she keep looking after making a promise??? If so that is RUDE!
    Didn't she say her farrier told her about a horse they had for sale after the deal with the mare?

    I don't sell horses, but I do breed and sell ball pythons (which can be quite high dollar, depending on type)... Nothing wrong with backing out of a sale before its finalized. I might be annoyed as a seller, but I would rather sell to somebody who actually wants what I am selling. Also to clarify, annoyed at needing to repost the snake for sale, but i've learned many of my experiences with tire-kickers was just as much my fault as a seller as it was the buyer. I now know to be more direct and straightforward when discussing a deal or selling animals. My hobby/business is BUILT on word of mouth... Reputation plays a massive role in the success of individuals.. And it is still common and accepted to back out of a sale. Hurt feelings are less important than spending huge amounts of money on a living creature where your satisfaction may directly impact its care, or your happiness in the long run.

    As said previously, its like buying a car... It isn't just a one time purchase, but requires long term care. Why buy a car that I know can't handle he snow as well as another in winter, if I can buy he better car from the start?
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