I have had my fair share of trainers since entering the horse world.
The ones I have communicated the BEST with were opinionated and told you what they thought it a very funny/sarastic way! never out of anger or from being frustrated. when asked a question they were very upfront with their answer and not wish washy to "soothe the client" they told them reality.
I believe it breaks the ice and then you're open for communication. i don't like to hear good good good all the time...tell me what i am doing wrong!
simply heels down,head up in a monotone would not do it for me all the time! they need to add some flavor and laughter for me to work best.
for the most part it should be a friend talking to a friend. "why are you leaning so far back?...you look like the man from snowy river."
I was riding Dillon and trainer told me to "quit posting so up and down (off the stirrups) as I looked like a nazi soldier!" "HAIL HITLER!" LMAO
and when asked to halt my horse (first learning) "stop pulling at his mouth he is trying to stop, woman!"
so your opinions ? add some funny things your trainers have said to you.
the trainers that i can't seem to work with are the ones that point out al the negatives and none of the positives.
they are perfectionists and seem to take you not grasping the concept right away personally and just become angrier and more frustrated. and end up making you think your are worthless.
a good trainer knows how to explain things in different ways to allow for different types of learning (ie: hands on learning,reading,visual)
George Morris (though i respect his riding and training GREATLY!) is a trainer who i might not get along with well...lol i have heard of instances of him making riders cry... i do not concentrate well when upset.
tell me firmly but not angrily. you can also be sarcastic in a fun spirited way. but not in a intentionally hurtful way.