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post #41 of 49 Old 07-25-2011, 04:27 AM
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IDK why your horse is exhibiting these behaviors. I do know that you should not ever allow her to act like. Don't make excuses for her and allow her to do as she pleases. It will only escalate.
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post #42 of 49 Old 07-25-2011, 04:52 AM
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I'm just going to add my 2 cents :)

You should really listen to the advice your getting instead of using the excuse I'm too young I don't need to know that.

Whether she is biting out of play, curiousity or aggression it should never be allowed because it can lead to something worse everytime. She should be put in her place everytime and don't take me wrong I don't mean you have to bash her. For example with my horses I simply have to say no because they know if they don't listen they are going to get a tap on the nose.

Even at work with the young (2-3yr old) horses a simple quick tap on the nose puts them in there place. Nine times out of ten its just curiousity or play.

I don't think your mare is missing you. I think because you haven't been there in awhile your mare sees you as an outsider to her 'herd' and you need to be put into your place. Which she does and you seem to allow her to do. It has nothing to do with her personality, the only part her personality would take part in is the level of aggression she uses.

Also I'm not one of the older people trying to lecture you and just a teenager myself. I'm assuming you are too.

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post #43 of 49 Old 07-25-2011, 07:02 AM
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OP, I didn't go through 5 pages of responses, so just my response to original post...

No, she's not "paying you back", she just ignores you as a leader. When you mess with them every day you remind them every day (sometime indirectly) who's in charge. When she tries to bite, she tries to establish herself as a leader with you. Just take it easy and correct her as needed.

BTW, my qh (I mess with every day) runs away every time she sees me coming to put her into work (she perfectly distinguishes when I come to work her or when I come just to mess with them). And she does it for number of years.

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post #44 of 49 Old 07-25-2011, 07:46 AM
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Ok Jenna,
I understand where your coming from but may I add that if she missed you she would come running to greet you. In reply to the original post Elle sometimes doesn't want to be caught and may show "her cranky" face however she doesn't bite. My advice would be to say "no "when she goes to bite and if she attempts have your hand/ arm ready and whenshe goes to bite put it ip and let her bump into it. Don't "hit" her... Let her bump into you . As for the runing away it probably maligns she does t want to be caught so my advice would be to put your arms up and shoo her away from you. Follow her untill she turns to face you then stop and offer her the option to come back to be with you. If not hunt her away again and follow her untill she turns around to face you. Any ears back shoo her away. In this situation you are the herd leader and she is the follower. By hunting her away you are excluding her from your herd . She will eventually want to come back and stay with you so when she does she should have a better attitude . If not shoo her away again and repeat the process. When she comes in to face you with no piggy attitude you can then walk off with her and she should follow. You have just taught her that when she is nasty towards the herd leader she gets kicked out which means she is left to fend for her self( in lead mare/ herd terms) so eventally she will come back respectful so she can be part of the herd again that way she is safe.

If she is wanting to bite she is being aggressive and disrespectful so as herd leader it is up to you to corect that behavior

Best of luck Jenna
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post #45 of 49 Old 07-25-2011, 03:09 PM
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OP, I am sorry that this conversation has not gone the way you intended it to, and I didn't mean to upset you. However, I think that maybe some of us are seeing things in what you are saying that you are not seeing.
If I were you, that would be exactly what I wanted to hear, so that I can learn.

Sometimes when it has been a while since I have seen my horse (and yes, my horse is different from yours), he comes running - other times he will be a bit pushy and needs correction. In my opinion he is seeing if he can get away with things again as it has been a while. He needs a reminder than no, he cannot, I won't accept that.
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post #46 of 49 Old 07-25-2011, 03:29 PM
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I'm not going to be rude here either just speaking the truth.

I am in agreement with most of the other posters. A little bit of fun nipping can become a lot of OUCH. I can tell your young and that is great. But honestly, it isn't all what you think it is. Though I'm sure many people would love to have their horse miss them or have human emotions. But in reality a horse thinks of one thing. SURVIVAL. That's it.

So just be careful what you are teaching this horse. As everything you do with it is teaching it something. Good or bad. I hope you don't feel that we are jumping down your throat because sometimes things look different from the outside and what we see could be danger to you.
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post #47 of 49 Old 07-25-2011, 04:02 PM
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we didn't see our little mare for a week for the first time we had her and she only took affence to when we tried to work her till then she was fine but our's is cheaky anyway xx
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Yes i do see all your opinions and i do agree that it is bad, i did as you would probly say 'Nip her Back' because i wouldnt allow it. She only done it twice because she learned by the second time that it is the wrong thing to do. She does know that i am the leader of the 'herd' and that i am in charge. Sometimes she tends to walk all over me, and even then i make her get out of my personal space because i dont like horses being.. clingy. I would like to think she has emotion although it isnt the same as human emotion she has emotion but shows it very differently to other horses, it is quite fascinating to see. Like i said i am young but i did not mean to intend the fact that just because im young i dont want to learn, Thats very untrue and i love to learn, i agree that it is the perfect time to learn. Thank you for your opinions and advice.

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post #49 of 49 Old 07-26-2011, 02:15 AM
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Glad you are having better results with your horse - and not meaning to harp on about it, but invading your space is not being clingy, it is a lack of respect.
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