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Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: South East Texas
I think that pretty much everything has been covered that I would say. OP, I have a little mare quite like yours though, in that she had zero respect for people and was actually being encouraged to act like an idiot. Its not a fun thing to correct but it can be done. Once you've ruled out any pain, I'd go with what a few of the others have said and make her MOVE.
My mare is three, almost four- but as a two year old she was a monster. She would even go as far as bucking and rearing while on a leadline, lunging at people with bared teeth, and kicking. She once even kicked a two year old boy in the head. Very luckily for her, she barely caught him and he was alright- but she would of been put down immediately otherwise.
And ofcourse, with behavior like she presented, I had to work to gain control of her. Fast. I did this by teaching her to give to pressure, and that she moved when I told her to, how I tolder her to, because I told her to. And not at all if I didnt say she could. I began by teaching her to back up, then proceeded to teach her to give to pressure at the hindquarters, girth, shoulders, poll, and mouth. Often I had to get nasty with her, and I was always afraid that she was going to hate me afterwards (before all of this she was just like your girl. Untouched by humans and very standoffish. Except for with her, she had been mistreated directly after being brought to our farm) but actually, exactly the opposite happened. In establishing my dominance with her, she actually wanted my approval. She realized that I was a good leader and that I would only punish her when she didn't do as I asked.
Now she's well mannered and actually on her way to becoming a very nice little cart horse, but I'm telling you- if she so much as makes an ugly face at me or takes a step towards me that I didn't authorize, she's going to be reminded of just who's in charge in this joint ;)
So that's what I'd advise in you doing. Its going to be a bit harder, because you fiance is unwilling to do things the right way (dont feel bad, I know quite a few men who are like this), but if you persevere and he just stays away, I think you'll see some drastic improvement in no time.
Also, I'd just like to say props to you for actually being open to suggestions from us and keeping a good attitude, as well as really looking at the whole picture and considering every option!
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