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post #1 of 15 Old 07-28-2010, 11:56 PM Thread Starter
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Shes such an annoyance.

This is a rant. Just warning you.

I have a friend who is a few years younger than me. she falls well into the 'little girl wanting a pony' category. Apparently, when she was nine years old, she was SO CLOSE to buying a TB she routinely went down to ride for fun, owned by another woman. This woman ended up selling her TB, which enraged this little nine year old. Apparently that horse was sold for 4k.
I have a tough time believing she had that much money saved up, especially without any help from her folks.
Now, she approaches me the other day, and begins reminiscing about this big gorgeous horse, and shes laying on the lovely details, making him sound fantastic and amazing and the best horse to ever hit the earth. I'm slowly beginning to catch on to what she wants.
And then she asks me if I can locate him.
I kind of laugh, and look at her for a second, and realize shes serious. I tell her that might be quite hard for me, and has she looked for him yet? she says yes, she has, so I tell her that she probably did a better job than I would've done. She won't drop the subject, though, so I give up and tell her I'll give it a shot. Shes very thankful, and then continues on about how he'd be a great pal for the other horse I'm bringing home, and how sweet he is, and how good of a horse he'd be for me.
Back up. I did NOT offer to buy this horse. I don't know if he's for sale to begin with.
So I tell her this, and she says how I should buy him if I find him. I tell her she should find him and buy him. She doesn't respond to this, oddly. She turns the subject back to why I should get him, and I am beginning to get rather fed up with all of this. I tell her, that by the sound of all his skills and abilities and looks and etc., I probably couldn't afford him anyway. She says that the last time he was sold it was for SOOOOO CHEAP. I ask her how much.
4k. I was between asking her what part of Beverly Hills she was from and choking back laughter. I told her there was no way I could afford that. She got a little huffy there, and said it was a great deal for a horse. I told her my horse was free, and I wouldn't go over 500$ on any horse in this economy and with the job I had at that point.
Long story short, shes still trying to get me to find and buy this TB.

have you ever been in a situation like this? Has anyone ever pressured you to find a horse like this? Has your 'horsey life' caused people to reach out to you for that reason only? I recall another girl bothering me constantly on FB to see if she could come ride my horse. I barely talked to her outside of our middle school days.

Alright, people, spill your stories! :)

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post #2 of 15 Old 07-29-2010, 06:28 PM
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Nope,I've never had that problem.And I'd be so mad if I was in your position.This girl is trying to get you to buy the horse she loves just so she can have him.You'd spend the money she doesn't have on it,and guaranteed the moment you bought him if you did,she'd claim him as "hers" and would always ride him and never let you get a chance on him.She's basically using you and guilting you into getting this horse just so she can have it to herself,and that's not cool.

I'd put my foot down if I was you and tell her if she wants the horse so bad,to save up herself and buy him if he's even for sale.

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post #3 of 15 Old 07-29-2010, 09:05 PM
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I can't stand people who don't know their own personal boundaries. What an annoying little girl. Tell her if 4k is nothing to her, she should go find a nice pony for a fraction of that price and have some money left over to pay for vet, farrier, and board for a while. Pestering you for a horse isn't going to get her anywhere so she might as well shut up about it.

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tell her to find somebody else to buy the horse for her. Then tell her to 'go away".
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post #5 of 15 Old 07-29-2010, 10:10 PM
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Shes NINE y'all. Do you remember when you were nine and anything seemed possible. I don't know your age, but as a mom I ask that you try to see her age, and gently sit her down and explain the facts to her in a way she will understand.
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post #6 of 15 Old 07-30-2010, 12:42 AM Thread Starter
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Um, shes fourteen now. Thats the thing. She was nine when she met this horse, though. She does annoy me, but I manage to stay nice to her, just because I don't have the heart to be bitter to her when she does at least attempt to help me do things, such as listening to our church teachers (I'm hard of hearing and we attend the same church, she writes things down for me if I need her to without asking). Though, I was infuriated that she'd throw this horse at me. Glad to know others would feel the same way- I was starting to think I was just being bitter.

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post #7 of 15 Old 07-30-2010, 12:44 AM Thread Starter
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Cakemom, thank you for throwing that in. Its good to have another opinion in the mix :) I'm seventeen, so we only have a three year age difference. Like I said, shes actually fourteen now.

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post #8 of 15 Old 07-30-2010, 12:51 AM Thread Starter
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Ryssa, thats what I was thinking. She would take that horse over. And Jessabel is also right- She could go get her own horse if that amount of money is nothing to her. I have other costs to take care of with my rescue horse, and I doubt I could even focus on two horses right now, since the one is on the way and has some healing up to do. What bothers me is that I know shes going to want to come around and take over my little mustang, and that is NOT going to fly. I know I'm defensive and she has me on edge as is, and I'd probably chase her from the property. Shes a bit of a know-it-all and I have the feeling that if I let her come over, she'd push her own ideas about my horse's rehab, and might even ruin what I'll be trying to do.
and wyominggrandma, I did enforce those... well, general statements on her. Language was more... colorful, of course. Shes not letting it up, though. I think shes just harder to get the message to then people with actual social understanding.

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14 is still a baby to me, but at your 17 I can see where you are coming from. At 14 she truly can understand, so I'd tell her firmly she's overstepping boundries or it's going to keep up. Good luck.
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Have you even found the wonder-horse yet? You can't buy him if you haven't found him. I'd play the mean-big-sister role and set her down, tell her why, and tell her to wait two more years until she has a job. I know she's not your sister, but if you have a mean-big-sister, you know that look they give, that condescending tone they talk to you in, and how they never do what you want. ;) Go all Boss-mare on her and teach her, either you listen/stay out of the way/don't touch/etc rules, or you will go away. If she gets petulant and goes away mad... well, she's at that age... if she is around and about to ruin something, don't sit there and wring your hands step in and set your boundaries and don't let her ruin anything.
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