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post #1 of 24 Old 12-21-2013, 11:47 AM Thread Starter
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Should I give up on this horse?

I have been "in the process" of adopting a horse for 3 months. I have been ready and willing to bring the horse home three months ago, and the rescue owner has been dragging her feet with my application. I have driven the 100 miles each way to visit the horse many times, and worked with him. The rescue owner always says how the horse likes me and we go well together.

The last 3 times I have tried to go to the rescue she has cancelled on me because she forgets things that come up. Granted she is in her 80s and is forgetful. She forgot who I was the first and second time I came.

She still hasn't done a site check and I have been trying to schedule one and she keeps putting it off. She originally told me the site check would be done early December, and now she says late January.

I am so frustrated and want to know if this is normal for adoptions and I am being crazy, or if I should just move on. I love the horse but at this point I am driving hours out of my way to be cancelled on and I just want to give a good horse a good home.
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post #2 of 24 Old 12-21-2013, 11:53 AM
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I would say to her how you feel about the situation and see where you go from there.
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post #3 of 24 Old 12-21-2013, 11:55 AM
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I think maybe you should give up on it.... Just wish her the best of luck in finding a good home for her horse. That's what I would do after waiting 3 months
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post #4 of 24 Old 12-21-2013, 11:59 AM Thread Starter
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She says "I know you're anxious to get him home but these things take time" etc. So I don't know how effective talking to her will be.
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post #5 of 24 Old 12-21-2013, 12:02 PM
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There are SO many "free to good home" horses who need to be homed "now" and need to be rescued. I would go for one of them, if your not madly in love with the one at this rescue.
I run a rescue with a 63y/o lady - only a few of our horses have ever left us and only to long time volunteers. Most of the small rescue places arent big on rehoming. We've been let down so very many times before. My own pony we rehomed 4 times, with training done between each and full disclosure of his training level and issues. His 4th time returned to us he had a broken rip and damaged shoulder from being put in a herd of large horses we were guaranteed he would not be turned out with at the home check. He had bitten all the people trying to give pony ride with him and finally trampled their professiobal trainer. Now he is a liabilty and can not be rehomed again. These crappy homes, no matter how thorough the check, have made this wonderful pony, with proper training, unplaceable.
I dont know the rescue you're referring to, but if its run by an elderly lady and she has little help she probably is too busy to do a home check. She probably was encouraged by the people who worry about her to rehome some horses, perhaps shes in over her head like our rescue, but perhaps she doesnt really want to rehome any.
I would move on, it will be frustrating and heart breaking for both of you. Go to craigslist and petfinder you'll find some hidden gems in there :)
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post #6 of 24 Old 12-21-2013, 12:04 PM
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I'd be straight up with her. Tell her you want to take him home now. Or your going to move on and find another horse.

Adoptions don't that that long. She obviously isn't that anxious to rehome him.
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post #7 of 24 Old 12-21-2013, 12:32 PM Thread Starter
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She basically would rather I wait until summer I think. Is it bad I would rather not wait forever? And she could still turn me down!

They adopt out only 4 or so horses a year because they are specifically a mustang rescue of failed BLM mustang adoptions.

I really just want a mustang, which are few and far between where I am.

How could I pull out of adopting him without her thinking poorly of me? The mustang and horse world in general is VERY small and I would hate her or anyone else to think I am just too anxious to get a horse and just trying to do anything I can to get one, which isn't true.
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post #8 of 24 Old 12-21-2013, 12:51 PM
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I preface what I am saying with I've never been involved in an adoption process.

The other posters have made excellent points on both sides of the argument. I'm wondering if the lady can drive herself around and that is some of the problem with scheduling site inspections as she has to rely on other folks?

I guess if I was in your situation, I would give it two more months (that allows the late January site check to happen - if it does) and at the same time start seriously perusing the ads. If something likely comes up from the ads, then you can check it out and if it is promising then you approach the lady and ask for a firm commitment from her for your original choice or you go with the new one (this doesn't need to be in a confrontational way - just the facts of the situation; she has to see your side of things as well as you seeing hers).

Best of luck. Let us know how it turns out.
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post #9 of 24 Old 12-21-2013, 01:01 PM
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When I "adopted" Buster Brown from a local rescue the process took less than one month. They were a 30 minute drive from my house.
I agree with Punks Tank. TOO many needy horses out there. Look elsewhere, and pray that the right horse connects with you. Blessings and good luck!

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post #10 of 24 Old 12-21-2013, 01:30 PM
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Maybe give her a time limit. Like say if u don't have everything to go by this date then u can keep your horse.
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