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post #1 of 5 Old 04-11-2011, 01:13 PM Thread Starter
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Should I keep her or sell her WWYD?

I am really struggling what to do about my beautiful Haflinger, I love her deeply, she makes me smile just to look at her, I love spending time with her, she can be an antsy little cow, but I've got used to her little ways and she doesn't worry me anymore.

Last year I bought a little easy entry cart and tried my hand at driving, Fancy was like a different pony, I think she really loves to pull, she just threw herself into it. Unfortunately a wreck, totally my fault, meant I lost my confidence in driving, so I swapped the cart for a beautiful Stubben saddle, took Mr G to some lessons and clinics and ended up as a Dressage rider, which I am really enjoying.

I've just started Fancy along the English route and at the moment I'm not sure she is going to enjoy it, and I don't know if I have the skill to bring her along.

I'm starting to wonder if she would be happier in a driving home, I don't really want to sell her, but at the same time unless we are on the same page is it fair to keep her??

I would be glad of any thoughts.

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post #2 of 5 Old 04-11-2011, 02:09 PM
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Oh what a wonderful pic. You both look happy!! My opinion...If a horse doesn't enjoy what they are doing they won't succeed. If she enjoyed driving and she was good at it, then maybe she does need to go to a driving home. I know its hard to get rid of a horse you love, but unhappy horses are no fun. Give her some more time under english saddle and then decide what you want to do. It may be she just getting used to it and figuring it out. She might learn to enjoy it. And maybe someday you'll feel up to driving again. :)
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post #3 of 5 Old 04-11-2011, 02:18 PM
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GH, it's admirable that you want what's best for Fancy.

I'd give her some time to figure out the under saddle work. She may take to it better than you think.

Lovely picture of the two of you. It's sad that your bad experience is causing you to shy away from driving.

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post #4 of 5 Old 04-11-2011, 02:58 PM
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Many years ago, I bought a pony for my kids as they were growing up. Cute little thing that the kids would sometimes ride but the pony never seemed to enjoy - as evidenced by her periodically dumping them. One day, a friend suggested that we try hooking her up - different pony! She loved pulling a cart and that is what we did with her for the rest of her years with us.

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post #5 of 5 Old 04-11-2011, 05:19 PM
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It won't kill her to be ridden, even if it's not her favorite thing. Versatility never hurt any horse. I suppose you could maybe half-lease her to someone who likes to drive. That way, you'd compromise and you could do what you want to do, and she could do something that she enjoys. That's what relationships are all about, right? Compromise.

She's fine. Even if you never drive her again, I can't imagine why she wouldn't be happy with you. All she really wants is food, water, shelter, and love. That's the nice thing about animals, they're so easy to please. If you love her that much, I honestly don't see any reason to sell her. Just my $0.02.

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