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        08-17-2010, 10:03 PM
    should i stay or should i go

    I am 14 and have been riding since I was 10. When I had almost been riding a full year the barn iwas riding at closed down and I had to find a new nplace to ride. The place I was riding at had been a jumping barn and the new place I went to wasn`t I didn`t think about this much because I hadn`tstarted jumping yet. I have been riding at the other barn now for 3 years and as much as I love this place, who I ride with and especially my coach not to mention the fact i`m treated like family there. But recently i`ve started to get bored because we always do the exact same thing. I love this barn so much but I have lost intrest in my riding and really want to learn to jump. I have started looking at other barns and have founds ones that sound and look amazing but i`m not sure if I really do want to make the switch especially if it means leaving my coach feeling betryed.

    Has anyone else ever been in this kind of a situation or just have any advice i`d really appreciate it, Thanks.
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        08-17-2010, 10:19 PM
    Maybe if you talck to your coach she/he can make some kind of arrangement for you to learn how to jump. But if not you must do what rights for you. Im shure they will understand , certainly if your losing interest in riding all together.
        08-17-2010, 10:22 PM
    Plus its not betrying your coach if you appreciate what your learned from she/he. My sugestion would be to actually talck to your coach about wanted to learn how to jump.
        08-18-2010, 01:28 PM
    I agree with you that I should talk to my coach. Thanks for the reply.
        08-18-2010, 02:05 PM
    My honest opinion is to treat this like an adult.

    Value your circumstances. Sure, there are friends there and you know the place, and you have relationships, however you can make friends at a nightclub, can't you? However I do not think that a nightclub would be best for bettering your education. School would be best for bettering your education.

    Similarly, you need to decide. Are you at the barn to make friends, or are you seriously there to better your riding? If if it is your desire to learn how to jump, it would be for your own benefit. If it truly hurts you, thank your trainer for all that you have learned, and perhaps offer to do some volunteering if you wish. You can keep your old friends if you stay in touch, but you as well will make some new friends as well.

    You sound like an average riding child to me. You grow up a little girl that rides simply for the pleasure of enjoying it, but as you grow up you are learning what you want to get out of riding, and learning similarly that you are not accomplishing such tasks at the barn you are at. I had a similar incident--I rode for the joy of being with horses and engaging with them, however I soon learned that I was not accomplishing my money's, time's, or effort's worth at the barn that I was riding at. Because you have taken notice of this, I would take this opportunity to grab life by the horns and go for it!
        08-19-2010, 08:40 AM
    You need to make the decision that's best for you, rather than doing something that makes you frustrated and unhappy because you don't want to betray your trainer. Years and years ago I switched from the sort of general English riding instructor at the barn to the trainer who specialized in dressage, since that's what I wanted to get into. My first trainer, who could be a little posessive of students, wasn't happy. There was a bit of tension and it was uncomfortable but everyone got over it and moved on.
        08-19-2010, 03:25 PM
    I completely forgot to mention the deal with my trainer.
    I left because I sprained my knee, and in truth I avoided absolutely all confrontation. She had so many issues, and took little care of her horses, but I didn't want to make her upset. I know she really loved me, but she wasn't too professional and didn't know a thing about doing anything more on a horse than hopping on and going for a ride. I worked for her and kenw I was being jipped and she was trying to suck money out of me for boarding too, but I didn't want to upset her.

    I suppose it was immature, just /leaving/, and I do not suggest that at all, but now that I've split I really really do understand that it was a change that needed to be made, especially if you want to get a trainer that's what you're looking for.

    I suppose what I'm trying to say is that don't try too hard to worry about your friends and your coach. They'll understand that it's probably for the best.

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