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post #1 of 16 Old 08-01-2012, 04:27 PM Thread Starter
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sick of ridding..

lately i feel like im getting no where in my ridding. my horse seems to go backwards right when it seems like hes getting something. i was going to start barrels this year on him but his gerneral ridding still needs work, and i would love to start showing but hes not ready i love him and hes so much fun but i dont know what to do. ive shown my moms horse s few times and hes done pretty well but he doesnt have the speed to do any real showing. he would be better for a younger rider to show but is fine with doing anything else.

my mom wants me to show i told her there is one this weekend and she said lets go now her moms coming up and says do you really have to show this weekend? i dont want to leave you there by yourself. its not really a one person thing he is new to showing and i would need help and she doesnt understand. she keeps saying that i should do rodeo but i feel once i do she wont want to come like every weekend this summer theres been a show she finds something else to do a few days before and i cant do it all myself. i bought her her horse a year ago and shes ridden about 6-8 times in the past year.

does anyone feel like this? i just dont know what to do.
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post #2 of 16 Old 08-01-2012, 04:45 PM
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Wait, so who is sick of riding, you or your mom?

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post #3 of 16 Old 08-01-2012, 04:52 PM Thread Starter
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me, she wanted a horse i got her one then she stoped ridding saying she will. and saying we can go to show but hen finding things to do before the shows so we cant go to them.
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post #4 of 16 Old 08-01-2012, 05:09 PM
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If you want to show, then you need to find a way to work out getting there and either work out a system to manage all the work yourself or get the help you need to make it work, either from mom or from friends. However, if you don't want to show, then just tell your mom you don't want to show. If she wants to show, then that's her deal, not yours and she needs to work it out.

Now, I'm going to tell you something that you don't want to hear. I've been around long enough on this forum and I've read enough of your posts to have an idea of what's going on. You are trying to train these horses when you don't have the necessary knowledge. Because things don't go smooth and end up the way you imagined them, you are at a loss for what to do and you end up frustrated. It happens, even I've been there more than once. The difference is that I recognized I didn't have the tools I needed to solve the problem so I got hands on help from someone who did.

If you are interested in learning more so that you can be a more effective trainer/rider and spend less of your time frustrated and disappointed, then you need to sit down, stop lying to yourself, and recognize your ability for what it is. You're not completely lacking knowledge when it comes to horses but you don't have the experience needed to try to train them, especially if they have issues. Your entire horse experience will be much more fulfilling and less aggravating if you get some help from a trainer who knows what they're doing.
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If you're old enough to buy a horse for someone else, you should be old enough to take a horse to shows on your own.

Or did you just help pick the horse out, and your mother bought it because you're a kid without a driver's license, job of your own, and no rig?

If you're old enough to drive and have a job, you don't have to wait for your mother to show if that's what YOU really want to do. If you're dependent on mom's money and driving abilities, then yeah, you're out of luck if it's not something she wants to deal with.

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post #6 of 16 Old 08-01-2012, 05:12 PM Thread Starter
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i bought him me and a friend went and found him, i have a job for 8-9 years and i only have a car, we use my dads truck but its our work vehicle and if he needs it we cant use it. i own the trailer we have.
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Then find a way to make it work, and stop moaning about how mommy doesn't want to cart you around for something YOU want to do.

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post #8 of 16 Old 08-01-2012, 05:18 PM
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If you want to show your horse, then show him. If you don't think he is ready, then don't show him.

Of course his first show is going to be hard, but you are going to have to do it, to get comfortable doing it.

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You could trade your car for a truck. I would way rather have a truck than a car.

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post #10 of 16 Old 08-01-2012, 05:31 PM
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I want to agree with smrobs. If you don't have the knowledge to be training these horses to the level you imagine, you will end up frustrated and discouraged - I know because I've been there.

All I can say is: if you are unhappy with where you're at or what you're doing, find a way to change that. Could you work with a trainer, as smrobs suggested?

I don't really understand the showing deal: do YOU want to show? Or do you not want to show but your mom still wants you to..? Either way, as I said above you need to find a way to change your situation so you're happy. Whether that's telling your parents you don't want to show, or getting a buddy or family member to come help you. Could you work out ways to trade vehicles with your dad for a weekend? Could you hitch a ride to the show with anyone in your area? I really do understand why you'd be frustrated with your mom backing out all the time, but if she's not as into horses as you are, it really is unfair to expect her to tag along and help you every weekend. Horse shows can be incredibly boring to pretty much everyone who isn't showing in them.

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