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post #11 of 16 Old 08-01-2012, 05:42 PM
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All I can say is: if you are unhappy with where you're at or what you're doing, find a way to change that.
This applies to every aspect of life.

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post #12 of 16 Old 08-01-2012, 05:42 PM
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tell your mom the truth

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post #13 of 16 Old 08-01-2012, 05:52 PM
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You can't live someone else's life for them.
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post #14 of 16 Old 08-02-2012, 04:13 AM
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Why can't you show alone?

I've done many shows and clinics alone, and actually really enjoyed it. I mean, there are other people there when you get there, also riding in the show and clinic. My boyfriend likes to come along now sometimes, although sometimes he doesn't. Some friends like to come along with me now too, which is fine and we have fun, but I swear sometimes its easier to do it alone. I like to focus when I'm showing and when other people are with, I feel like I have to "entertain" and coordinate schedules, etc, and when it's just me and my horse, it's easier.

It was difficult to get in this mindset. The first time I was kind of on my own, a friend had come with her horse, she was showing a division above me and because of how the ride times were staggered, she would be gone each time I would need to tack up/warm up and show. This was my first one day event and while dressage was fine, before cross country my mare gets jiggy and wiley once her brush boots go on and I was having a hard time getting her to stand. A polite Pony Club dad came over to see if he could help, but when he reached for my mare's bridle she reared, so I decide I was going to have to learn how to handle her on my own pretty quickly! I did :) The first time out was a disaster, I had to stick her face up against my trailer door and hop on quickly from my mounting block (which she tipped over then jigged away). It was sleeting/raining and 38 degrees so it was cold, wet and slippery, she slid on her hocks twice over the warmup jumps and her back legs were a muddy mess, our cross country was actually really good, but stadium was a disaster, while we were actually clear, I was so out of control that I was actually yelling "I'm sorry" to the judge over and over again. We got 6th place, and I should have opted out of the victory lap haha.

Anyway, it does get easier! You can look back at the first times and laugh because they are funny, eventually.

As far as riding in general, no, I've never been sick of it. I live to ride. Sometimes, when other parts of life gets in the way it can be a challenge, but I always think back to 15 year old me working my butt off to get my first horse, and then working my butt off to train him, etc. I was lucky, as I've always had qualified people to help me when needed, but there have been times where I've felt like I've gone a long time without progression too. It happens to all of us, in pretty much anything we'll ever do. You just need to decide if it's important enough and if you want it enough to keep it up.

I wish you luck and peace, in whatever you decide.
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post #15 of 16 Old 08-02-2012, 05:33 AM
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Decide if you want to show, and if you do then start working towards that. Evaluate if your horse is ready and if he is then go for it.

You do have to understand that people have their own lives. What your mother does has very little do with you. If she wants to ride then she rides, if she doesn't want to she won't - this doesn't effect you. If she wants to show or wants you to show then that is her business not yours.

My mother used to come to horse shows with me as a kid, but as an adult, of course she wouldn't. It isn't her show. I wouldn't want to turn up to someone else's show and follow them around all day. That would be pretty boring. It's very unfair to expect someone to do that for you.

It's not that hard to go to a horse show alone. You'll have somewhere to tie your horse, somewhere to get changed, what help do you actually need? Go there tack up and ride, if it's your first show alone then do less classes so you're less rushed. Leave yourself a lot of time. If you miss a class - so what - it's your first show alone.

If your horse isn't at the level where you can ride/tack/load/mount him alone then you probably aren't ready to be showing.
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post #16 of 16 Old 08-03-2012, 12:24 AM
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If your "riding" (ridding is something else) and horse's progress is going no where, you don't need to be showing, it won't be much fun anyways. I will tell you this right now, get a coach & a instructor, the best you can afford. It will be the best money you ever spent and then you will be going somewhere, I guarantee it! I have spent over 40 years with horses, showing, training, riding, you name it, through all of it, I had instruction, coaches, clinics, trainers. When I felt I was stagnant, it was time to move on to another level of instructor.
As for your mom not helping you out & going to shows, that's too bad but if you get the training & help you need, you won't require her help. Sometimes coaches go with you to shows. My current coach does, worth every penny. Until you make the change to gain further knowledge & skills in your equestrian endeavors, don't worry about going places with your horse & your mom.
The advice I & others have posted here is not to make you feel inadequate, it is to tell you there is a better way and how to avoid the frustration you are feeling. I want everyone out there to enjoy their horse pursuits & goals to the max! I want the horse industry booming!!
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