Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: dark side of the moon
Why can't you show alone?
I've done many shows and clinics alone, and actually really enjoyed it. I mean, there are other people there when you get there, also riding in the show and clinic. My boyfriend likes to come along now sometimes, although sometimes he doesn't. Some friends like to come along with me now too, which is fine and we have fun, but I swear sometimes its easier to do it alone. I like to focus when I'm showing and when other people are with, I feel like I have to "entertain" and coordinate schedules, etc, and when it's just me and my horse, it's easier.
It was difficult to get in this mindset. The first time I was kind of on my own, a friend had come with her horse, she was showing a division above me and because of how the ride times were staggered, she would be gone each time I would need to tack up/warm up and show. This was my first one day event and while dressage was fine, before cross country my mare gets jiggy and wiley once her brush boots go on and I was having a hard time getting her to stand. A polite Pony Club dad came over to see if he could help, but when he reached for my mare's bridle she reared, so I decide I was going to have to learn how to handle her on my own pretty quickly! I did :) The first time out was a disaster, I had to stick her face up against my trailer door and hop on quickly from my mounting block (which she tipped over then jigged away). It was sleeting/raining and 38 degrees so it was cold, wet and slippery, she slid on her hocks twice over the warmup jumps and her back legs were a muddy mess, our cross country was actually really good, but stadium was a disaster, while we were actually clear, I was so out of control that I was actually yelling "I'm sorry" to the judge over and over again. We got 6th place, and I should have opted out of the victory lap haha.
Anyway, it does get easier! You can look back at the first times and laugh because they are funny, eventually.
As far as riding in general, no, I've never been sick of it. I live to ride. Sometimes, when other parts of life gets in the way it can be a challenge, but I always think back to 15 year old me working my butt off to get my first horse, and then working my butt off to train him, etc. I was lucky, as I've always had qualified people to help me when needed, but there have been times where I've felt like I've gone a long time without progression too. It happens to all of us, in pretty much anything we'll ever do. You just need to decide if it's important enough and if you want it enough to keep it up.
I wish you luck and peace, in whatever you decide.