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    10-02-2013, 09:48 PM
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Yearling
Sister's friend wants to ride horse

Hi. So I have a question...more so about me than it is about horses.

Just so you know, I gave a very solid "No." in answer to the question. It was just a flat out, "No. She is not allowed to touch him. She is not allowed to ride him."

Do you think I was too rude about this situation?

My sister has a new friend who absolutely is in love with horses. She has been hinting pretty heavily that she would like to ride in the future. Specifically she would like to ride *my* horse.

Granted my horse is the best one to ride in the pasture. Of our other two, one is recovering from being starved (rescue) and we don't know him well as we've only had him a week, and the other just is very temperamental and not good for a beginner.

My horse is 15.3hh and is 17. He weighs around 1100 lbs. I'm picky about who rides him in the first place because, well, he's my baby.

Additionally, despite him being well behaved and despite the fact that he always listens to me...he does not listen to everyone. While he is a horse that you can just get on and go no matter how long he hasn't been touched, he does need to know that whoever is on him knows what they're doing otherwise he misbehaves. Before every ride he usually has his typical "5 minutes of stupid" and then he's good. He's not malicious during this time. And it either can happen with you on the ground or in the saddle. He just prances a lot and spins in circles and spooks at a thing or two - mostly due to excitement, but then he's as good as gold for the rest of the ride.

Also, (and I know this is horrible but) this girl is 12 years old and weighs nearly 300 lbs. I'm sorry, but I don't want 300 lbs of clueless up on my horse. Also if what they say is right and horses can carry 20% of their body weight, I don't even think he'd be good with carrying her...

He's also a barrel racer and has the typical get up and go of a barrel racer. I don't want someone who doesn't know what they're doing up on him going crazy with him all over the place and have no idea how to stop him.

My sister is naturally very upset about this because I'm being unfair, but am I?

Just curious. What decision would you make if you were in this position?

Oh, and I'm away at college so the odds of me being able to supervise them riding are next to none.
     
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    10-02-2013, 09:56 PM
  #2
Yearling
No, not necessarily. Just becaues you have a horse doesn't mean that you give out free pony rides...I'm the same way. Except I have a greenie, and she isn't trained like your everyday pasture pony. Many people have a hard time figuring out her cues. So I don't want someone riding her unless its my trainer or I'm there watching them.

If she wants to ride, maybe give her a website/address to someone who gives lessons. She'll love that.
     
    10-02-2013, 10:11 PM
  #3
Trained
I would be hard pressed not to add an obscenity before the "NO!"

I don't know how effective any equine liability laws are where you live, but just the fact that they would not stop someone from suing and thus force me to hire a lawyer at my own expense to defend me means I don't allow just anyone to ride one of my horses.

I also have slender horses - my biggest is 900 lbs, but is also 15.2 hands.

It is all risk for you, potential damage or bad training to your horse, and I think if someone wants to ride a horse, they can go pay a pro who has liability insurance. IMHO.
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    10-02-2013, 10:16 PM
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Showing
I think you made a good decision, not only for yourself, but also for your horse. Beginners need a true dead-headed horse that isn't going to hop right into a lope if they accidentally squeeze with their legs. It wasn't rude for you to say no. I would have said no as well.

I made the mistake of allowing someone to ride my horse a while back and it ended badly for both of them. She ended up falling and Dobe was terrorized. Took me almost an hour to get him calmed back down under saddle. For that reason, people don't get to ride him anymore.

As AQHAGirl said, just because you have horses doesn't mean you are obligated to take every Sue, Jane, and Sally riding because they lurve horses.

I'd also suggest that you let her know that lessons on calm school horses are the place to start and you don't feel that your horse is suitable for a beginner rider and wouldn't want to see her get hurt.
     
    10-02-2013, 10:29 PM
  #5
Yearling
Especially with this 'are horses naturally dangerous' thing going around it wouldn't be the greatest idea to put a kid, with no horse experience, in your liability...Who knows the horse may nudge her and next thing you know you have lawsuits down your throat because the puurdy poneh mauled her.
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    10-02-2013, 10:36 PM
  #6
Foal
From the way you described her, I wouldn't let her ride either. From how you described her she has no riding experience, and your horse sounds he would be ill-suited mount for her. And if I did the math right (which is questionable) she exceeds how much your horse can carry going by the 20% rule, and the weight of your saddle would add to that. I'd say better safe than sorry, and don't let her ride. Maybe you could point her in the direction of a trainer or a lesson stable more suited to her needs.
     
    10-02-2013, 10:51 PM
  #7
Green Broke
No no no...did I say no?

Your horse.

I do hope though that your sister or whomever will not take it upon themselves to let her ride anyway???
     
    10-02-2013, 11:09 PM
  #8
Yearling
The only thing I think might have been a *teensy* bit overboard is the "she's not allowed to touch him." I guess in that situation I would also flat out refuse to let her ride, but I might offer to let her come and groom, learn how to act around them, teach her the basics how to be near a horse on the ground. Obviously I would have to be present and watching her like a hawk, but I'm sure as a 12 year old she'd be thrilled to even be near a horse and be able to brush one or something.

Of course there might me specific reasons you don't want her to touch him, but in my case that's what I'd likely do (I have a nice calm filly that wouldn't mind being groomed by whoever). :)
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    10-03-2013, 12:10 AM
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Started
No offense, but I would never let ANYONE like that ride my horse. Even my friend, someone who's a fine weight with some riding experience-no. We're at that stage where we're beginning to really click, and he's in hard training and I wouldn't want to jeopardize that. Really no one right now except me, my trainer (though he never rides him), and my sister (rarely.) I feel like others would let him get away with stuff that I'm being very, very picky about correcting.
So I agree with you. It isn't worth risking messing up your horse :)
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    10-03-2013, 12:10 AM
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Originally Posted by Shoebox    
The only thing I think might have been a *teensy* bit overboard is the "she's not allowed to touch him." I guess in that situation I would also flat out refuse to let her ride, but I might offer to let her come and groom, learn how to act around them, teach her the basics how to be near a horse on the ground. Obviously I would have to be present and watching her like a hawk, but I'm sure as a 12 year old she'd be thrilled to even be near a horse and be able to brush one or something.

Of course there might me specific reasons you don't want her to touch him, but in my case that's what I'd likely do (I have a nice calm filly that wouldn't mind being groomed by whoever). :)
I have to agree here. 'Not touching' may be a tad harsh.
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