If you order the pasta , and it has chicken in it - don't be suprised if it comes with chicken in it - unfortunately , that happens. Take the chicken out and don't eat it , but don't make a scene about it.
Peoples life choices are theirs and they shouldent be harassed to make any other choice , but they shouldn't impose those on other people either. And if I am cooking dinner for 10 people , then yes cooking a separate dinner for one is an awful lot of extra work and a huge imposition on me. It makes me even less inclined to want to put the effort into making something special for them when they sit there making faces at the dinner I've cooked for everybody else. On the flip side , when we have friends over who are vegetarian (I no longer live with the vegetarian) we will often do a pot luck type thing , where we will bring one thing , and they will bring another and then we know that both dietary choices/needs are catered for - and no one feels like the HAVE to go out of their way. Believe me I know there is nothing more frustrating that trying to cater for a coeliac, so I don't expect people to.
Maybe you could cook something vegetarian for your family to put on the table at dinner time and they could try it and see if they like it. Then you wouldn't have them waving it in your face , and you wouldn't be an imposition on whoever it is that has to cater for your choice. At the very least you would know that there was something tasty for you to eat! Which is always good IMO.
My post is not juxtaposed at all, I do feel that you are reading into it in an attempt to see what you want to see. Which isnt there unfortunately. :)
I never said don't go anywhere where there isnt a vegetarian choice. I said don't get pissed if you order something that has meat and it comes with meat, there are restaurants that cater for vegetarians and if you are eating somewhere that is clearly a place that serves meat dishes (like said steak house) whether that be your choice or not - don't get upset if things arnt catered exactly to you. Maybe you could suggest that your family try eating somewhere else for a change?? Not in a nasty way - just "Hey , weve eaten at this steak house before , why don't we try a different place next time?". Often when I go out to restaurants there is virtually nothing I can eat due to the presence of gluten. Not alot I can do about it , like I said in my above post - I can't order the roll and say 'no wheat please' , it doesn't work like that. I just have to like it or lump it - as do millions of other people for whatever reason.
Im glad you see that I am not being rude, mean or aggressive - people do have different choices , and it is up to the person making that choice to deal with the consequence of it. Whether they be appealing or not is a different matter.