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    04-21-2011, 06:35 PM
  #1
Banned
Small problem at the barn. What to do?

I really need to rant...

There is a horse at my barn and the owner has a "trainer" coming to work with him because, he needs some work. The "trainer" was there today.

Anyway, yesterday she was there and I had just gotten off my horse and had yet to take the cross rail down in the ring, she walked in and was like "you jumped your guy over that" and she laughed and I responded back "yeah why" and she had no answer. Didn't really bother me but, yeah OK still weird. Than as I was bringing my horse his water bucket, he turned and ran out of his stall and into the back and I got mad and told my horse he was an "idiot" and she was standing there watching him and I grabbed my halter right away and went and got him but, she followed him around and what looked like wanted to chase him out.

Than, tonight I go into the barn to feed my horse with my fiance and she's there again. Once again not a problem, not my barn can't say a word. Anyway, she was talking to me and saying "hey, how are you" and I just walked past her and was like "i'm fine thanks" I really don't like her. I asked her if she was going to use the ring and she was like "no we just had loretta out, it's all yours" OK, great thanks. Grabbed my horse and put him in the ring to roll and walk around and graze on the little grass there was in there but, as I was walking back, she just kept staring me down as if I needed to be watched or something. Again, I don't care but, still it's weird. Than I heard what sounded like she was talking about me. Don't really care and I don't know for sure if she did so, I didn't say anything to her.

Went to go and get my horse from the ring and I yelled at him "come here fatso" and he didn't come over to me, so I just kind of laughed and walked over to him, with his halter. Normally, he comes over to me when I walk into the ring holding his halter in my hand, anyway as I was walking over to get him, she was like "do you want me to go and get him" and all I felt like saying to her was "no, I know how to get my own horse"

She just kept watching me as I was putting his blanket on, getting his grain ready, getting his hay, cleaning his paddock. I just don't like her. Like, yesterday while she was riding my friends horse, she had his reins all the way up by his ears, she had his bit too tight in his mouth, cinch was too loose, etc.... she was making a fool of herself and my friend said the same thing, even after my friend asked her to "loosen the bit in his mouth" and she kept saying "no matter what we do, he is still going to play with the bit"

Than one day while I was riding, she was telling me how my stirrups were to long for me and that I needed to have them like "jumping stirrups" while I was riding and she put my stirrups like I was a jockey or something.

I just don't know. Is it my place to say something or should I just let it be, until she crosses the line and I tell my BO. Or is it something that I shouldn't worry about and just keep ignoring her?
     
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    04-21-2011, 06:53 PM
  #2
Yearling
What exactly did you have in mind to tell the BO? That the new trainer lady keeps staring at you? I would probably wait until she crosses the line with something. I can see why she might be creeping you out but to put it in words to someone who hasn't seen it, it might just sound like paranoia. Doesn't sound like she's too far from crossing that line anway.
     
    04-21-2011, 06:55 PM
  #3
Banned
I never actually thought that far into as what to tell the BO but, at this point there would be nothing to tell her, I was thinking along the lines as telling my BO that I don't appreciate her acting like I don't know how to handle my horse.
     
    04-21-2011, 07:03 PM
  #4
Trained
If it were me, and somebody kept "watching" me, I would just turn around and nicely ask them, "is there something I can help you with?" It's the current politically correct way of say "Why the f are your staring at!"
     
    04-21-2011, 07:07 PM
  #5
Banned
I am almost to the point of doing that. Seriously, it's not even that i'm paranoid, it's that it's really annoying. I don't understand why she has to watch me with every little thing I do. That's what i'll probably end up doing.
     
    04-21-2011, 09:54 PM
  #6
Showing
Agree with Puck, I think this is something that needs to be handled first between just you and her. Ask the question Puck mentioned and if she continues to stare at you all the time, one of my favorite questions is "Didn't your mother ever teach you it's impolite to stare?"

As for her unsolicited advice, I would just ignore her or give the oh-so-easy "No, thanks, I don't need help" and keep doing what you're doing.
     
    04-21-2011, 10:17 PM
  #7
Weanling
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Originally Posted by MyBoyPuck    
If it were me, and somebody kept "watching" me, I would just turn around and nicely ask them, "is there something I can help you with?" It's the current politically correct way of say "Why the f are your staring at!"
^ I agree =)
     
    04-21-2011, 10:30 PM
  #8
Green Broke
Quote:
Originally Posted by MyBoyPuck    
If it were me, and somebody kept "watching" me, I would just turn around and nicely ask them, "is there something I can help you with?" It's the current politically correct way of say "Why the f are your staring at!"
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Originally Posted by smrobs    
Agree with Puck, I think this is something that needs to be handled first between just you and her. Ask the question Puck mentioned and if she continues to stare at you all the time, one of my favorite questions is "Didn't your mother ever teach you it's impolite to stare?"

As for her unsolicited advice, I would just ignore her or give the oh-so-easy "No, thanks, I don't need help" and keep doing what you're doing.
Both of these. I would also be willing to say eventually....if you want to keep staring, I'm going to start charging you.....or I can dance if you want something more entertaining to look at, since you can't keep your eyes off of me.

It wouldn't be surprising if she was just amazed that you have the will power to turn down such an incredible trainer like her and do it all yourself!!
     
    04-21-2011, 11:15 PM
  #9
Banned
Well, she's definitely not my trainer, that's for sure. I wouldn't touch her with a 10 foot pole. I was just riding and she came up and was like I think your stirrups need to be shorter and shortened them like I was a jockey or something. I swear the next time I am out at the barn, I am going to shorten my stirrups and show you all what she had me at. She's definitely not any trainer and if she is i'd like to know who taught her.

I will definitely be either ignoring her or using the polite stuff you guys told me to say.
     
    04-21-2011, 11:38 PM
  #10
Green Broke
Gonna be blunt here....it is your own fault that she shortened the stirrups. You could have moved your horse away, or said something. It isn't easy to shorten someones stirrups from the ground when the horse is moving away, and the rider isn't moving their leg....
     

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