I will say though after the trailride it was nothing to get her to go back on the trailer, I think she was definitely tired and wanted that rest.
This makes me wish I would have went ahead to the trail ride! Though, it was getting late.. It was 3:30 before we got him on and we still had another horse to pick up. However, my friend keeps her horses at home (we were going to pick one of hers up to go), and they ride there, so I should have just taken him there and we could've ridden at her house. Worst case scenario, her dad would have to help us get him back on. Oh well, there's always next time.
i feel your pain and at least you had helpful or from what I am assuming helpful people around. For the longest time we had no truck or trailer and had to have someone else haul our horses
After about an hour and a half of watching me struggle, get frustrated, and cry, they did get up and help. Before that, I was doing it with the help of my boyfriend and his friend (both of which are not horse people AT ALL), so basically I was doing it myself since they didn't know what they were doing. The other guys (the actual horse people) would throw suggestions my way, but watched me suffer before helping. They did say they would've helped sooner if I had asked.. but the last thing I'm thinking about is asking them to help when I'm trying to get my horse on the trailer..
I don't own a truck/trailer either, but some people at the barn let me borrow theirs and it's the one I practiced loading him with. :P
I feel your tears. My horse was like that, too. We could never get him loaded and it took HOURS to get him on a trailer...it was even worse when it was a straight load trailer. We've had people pushing him, lunging him in front of the trailer, shaking feed...everything.
...but I have a secret weapon. Have you tried using a lunge whip? My horse will load immediately whenever someone gets near him with the whip. I can load him myself because I just tap his butt and he goes in.
Some horses are genuinely afraid of loading, and then I think others are just reluctant too. It's cramped, hot, and boring. That's when they play games -- Rusty plays those games. It's just a matter of letting them know that you are in charge, not them.
You'll find something that works for you, I'm sure. :)
What made it most frustrating was the fact that he usually just hops on no problem! Every other time we've practiced, even the FIRST time I practiced loading him in the bumper pull, I just led him up to it and he hopped right on! We were even using the same trailer he was used to. I'm not sure what was different on Saturday.. I guess maybe he could tell I was stressed and we were already running late, so we were in a hurry to begin with. Usually he gets to load once, get off, load again, and get secured in there. So I guess that's what the major difference was. I went there with the attitude, "He has to hop right on, so we can go." and that ruined it.
On Saturday, I did bring out the lunge whip, it didn't work. At all. It only made him angrier. He'd move his behind in every way EXCEPT where I needed him to go.
He wasn't scared of the trailer, either. That's another thing. He showed no fear, just agitation. He started out playing with us to be annoying, then when he was getting fussed at for it, he started getting mad. When everyone eased off of him, he got time to collect himself, and had food in the trailer, he hopped on.