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    05-24-2012, 12:00 PM
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Weanling
Unhappy Social Anxiety and First Gaming Show

On June 3rd I'm competing in my first horse show. Unfortunately, my social anxiety is making me dread this day.
My horse isn't a fully trained gamer, he's really new to it. I've only just started him loping the barrel pattern. I've never ridden him in a dirt arena or around other horses before and I just feel like this is a disaster waiting to happen.
I'm mainly afraid of people making fun of us or thinking I'm a bad rider because of our inexperience :(
Does anyone have any advice or helpful words?
Will people laugh at us or judge us if we end up trotting the pattern, or he acts up a bit?
     
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    05-24-2012, 12:06 PM
  #2
Weanling
Where I'm at, lots of people trot the patterns. If possible, maybe you could do just training runs, if they're available at your venue, they'd be cheaper, and (at least in our organization) your name isn't announced, so its a good way to dip your toes in. I have social anxiety too, and didn't ride in our game shows for FIVE freaking years because of it. I had to be at every show for my kids, but it took me that long to get comfortable.
     
    05-24-2012, 12:10 PM
  #3
Green Broke
We all started somewhere. When I 1st started showing I made several trips to the bathroom so anxiety is a common thing when starting out. I would get a mentor for at least moral support and to help you feel more comfortable.
     
    05-24-2012, 12:12 PM
  #4
Green Broke
P.S. I am not sure of your riding skills but always be a good horseman and a good sport. Your horse should come 1st and do not sacrifice your relationship because you are worried that you won't do well.
With each time you will get better and you may look back and laugh about how you did or felt.
     
    05-24-2012, 12:13 PM
  #5
Weanling
My guess is that you will actually end up making friends! Every horse person has had to start somewhere, and most likely they will be more than willing to help you out. Try to view it as a fun experience. If you view it with fear and dread, that is setting yourself up for failure. If you are only comfortable trotting, trot your heart out until you can do it in your sleep. Remember that your horse will pick up on your emotions, so just relax, and have fun!
     
    05-24-2012, 12:22 PM
  #6
Weanling
Wow, thank you all so much! I feel much better already.
I'm planning on doing trial runs. :)

I think I'll trot the pattern for now, he has a speed demon trot anyways xD
     
    05-24-2012, 12:48 PM
  #7
Yearling
No people will not make fun of you. Chances are there will be people who are even less experienced at gaming then you there. Don't worry about it, make sure your horse comes first, talk to people, ask them what their experience is, ask them about their horse(s), just casually talk to people and you'll probably come out with a friend. And most importantly have fun :)
     
    05-25-2012, 02:55 AM
  #8
Weanling
Don't be! I used to do gaming and I'll tell you, there was quite a wonderful group of people who were always helpful and would cheer people on whether they knew them or not. I started off just trotting/walking the patterns because I was a dressage rider, not a gamer, I ended up going faster eventually but it was more my horse's idea than mine (I am not really a games fan and being out of control made me dread it haha)

I have major social phobia and performance phobia. I do still show and just remember, you aren't alone, you have your horse there with you.
     
    05-25-2012, 03:08 AM
  #9
Trained
At most of our gaming shows we don't see a horse trotting or going slow and think "Oh geez, that girl man...She's such a bad rider. Seriously. She sucks."

On the contrary, we tend to think "Oh, the horse is green. That's cool. Maybe we'll get to see them run next time."

My biggest advice is do not EVER try and go faster than you are ready for....When in doubt, slower. :) It's so easy to see girls these days just kicking really hard and then the horse blows past barrels, panics, and gets so bound up and deadset on running aroud like mad that they don't know head nor tail of where on the pattern they are and couldn't even tell the first from last barrel. As long as you're not THAT girl, you're fine
     
    05-25-2012, 09:22 AM
  #10
Yearling
Just relax, if your not sure about loping just trot for now :) like everyone else said most people will know your horse isn't ready. I have 3 horses to run, all are unfinished and unconsistant. Even my good horse has his bad days still where he makes us look bad.
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