Another big vent (cookies if you get through it or just snag some anyway) I've put in bold the main points for those of you who are skimmers
Kevin is now taking lessons from me on one of my trainers lesson horses (after he's signed his horse over to me), he's doing good. Today he came out and after his lesson he was just getting on my nerves.
For example instead of saying Whoa and Horse he would say wooo (as in woo a baby to sleep) and hoss (as it sounds). Pissed me off, my trainer saw me steaming and I told kev that if he didn't cut it out right then I'd smack him with my dressage whip. He laughed, I said I wasn't joking, he says it again and I smacked him across the upper thigh (over a thick pair of jeans and not as hard as I really wanted to) and glared.
I pushed him out of the barn and said his immaturity was not welcome here and to go sit in the car like the 10 year old he's acting like and when he's ready to behave, listen, and follow direction he is welcome to come back out. I reminded he is there to learn and isn't there to mess around and be stupid. He looked a bit butt hurt and smiled with the look of trying to hide embarrassment but cut it out. He had been doing "his horsey language" for a bit and getting on everyones nerves and thanks to those pesky female hormones, I haven't been very tolerant lately. He straightened up right away.
Vet came out today to do some chiro on Sampson and recommended until Saturday when he gets his front shoes, we need to leave him in and turn him out in the arena just to stretch his legs and roll but mainly no play time in the pasture so he doesn't break off any of his front hoof. After my trainers last lesson of the night I took the big boy out and turned him loose in the arena. Kevin followed me in to watchin Sampson chase his shadow and snort through the wall at the stalled horses and be himself. After he's done rolling and being a horse he came over kind of to say "ok I'm done" I went to pat him on the head and he went for a hard rub up my chest which isn't ok with me (I'm little and don't appreciate being pushed over with an itchy face), I gently poked him in the side of the nose and said "no rubbing" and went back to scratching his forehead and the rest of his face. Kevin had the nerve to say to me(and even my trainer held her breath at this) "Um Ellie, Sampson doesn't like it when you poke him in the nose like that"
My response was as follows (or along the lines of):
"Really?! Well thank you for letting me know what MY horse likes and excuse me for being so rude as to let him know he's not allowed to push me around just because his face itches. I'm sorry but I think I know him just a tad bit better than you and honestly I'm sick of you strutting in here like you own the place when you haven't even been consistently riding for a year. Don't tell me how to treat or act around my horses! I know big boy better than you did even when you owned him."
With a deep breath I took him back to his stall and he nudged me very gently as if to say "breathe, it's ok."
I went and gave Caleigh a big hug and started on her nightly massage to calm myself down. I could hear my trainer in the arena was firmly but kindly explaining my outlook on training and how much this whole situation has been bothering me. In the car ride home he apologized and asked if he could come out for a lesson tomorrow and I said I'd think about it but he would be better off finding another ride over.
Maybe it's just the hormones but he's been getting on my nerves. We've known each other for years and he never used to be this hard headed and annoying. Outside of the barn he's not like this at all but I had to put a stop to this nonsense. Outside of the barn he acts like a smart 20 year old but at the barn he's an immature hormonal 10 year old. If it continues I told him he wouldn't be welcome at the barn period.
Ps: Here's the cookies!