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post #31 of 70 Old 10-29-2013, 06:33 AM
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She said your horse was ugly... AND?????

Who cares, if you get upset over something so trivial you may struggle later on when people say something genuinely hurtful or offer criticism.
Geez, my coach tells me that my young warmblood is ugly, she asked if he broke his nose because he's got a block head. It's all tongue in cheek, I tell her that her $150k FEI dressage horse is ugly because it's got a wall eye and markings like a dairy cow ;) Laugh it off, it does not matter in the slightest. Far out, in my current and previous occupations I get and got called things far worse than ugly - laugh at the other person's pettiness and get on with your life.
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post #32 of 70 Old 10-29-2013, 03:27 PM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by haviris View Post
What would I have done? I'd have walked off laughing! A lot of times people are just trying to get a reaction anyway, and it annoys the crap out of them when you are unfazed by it.

On the other hand there are many people that don't seem to understand how rude something like that is. I have a Chinese Crested, so not everyone's cup of tea, and to be quite honest when she needs a groom she is a bit homely, but all groomed up I think she's adorable. Any who, you'd be amazed at how often people think nothing of telling me how ugly she is (she's been compared to a drowned rat more times then I can count, which doesn't make any since, she's a mostly hairless dog, but does have hair on her tail (and head, and feet), which a rat does not). I understand that not everyone is going to find her attractive, and that is fine, and if I ask that's one thing, I would expect them to be honest, but otherwise why say anything?

And I also have to say, saying "Your horse is cute, for a bay that is I just don't like bays", is not a compliment, maybe they didn't say your horse was ugly, but they did say she's an ugly color which is about the same thing. Another one of those, why say anything? Maybe I'm off on that, but that's the way I would take it if someone said it to me (and actually I did have someone tell me he didn't like grullas (like my mare) because they looked like their face and legs were rotting), but in his defense he didn't know I owned a grulla! And I didn't take offence.
Yes, I didn't care for the "Your horse is cute for a bay" comment either. The way I see it is, if you really love horses, you don't care what they look like, its about their soul.
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post #33 of 70 Old 10-29-2013, 03:34 PM
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That is true, but people do and can have preferences. There are horses I don't particularly care for that someone else may love, just as there are horses I love that some may not care for. I was having a conversation with a woman a few years older than me that showed Arabians at the national level. When I said I had an Appaloosa, she said "ew why would you want one of THEM?" So I replied with "well, because I like him. You don't have to like him, he's not your horse. But I like him and he works for me".

Who gives a rats behind what others think of your horse, unless it's a judge at a show?
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post #34 of 70 Old 10-29-2013, 03:49 PM
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Originally Posted by JessCeri View Post
Yes, I didn't care for the "Your horse is cute for a bay" comment either. The way I see it is, if you really love horses, you don't care what they look like, its about their soul.
And how, exactly, are we supposed to know a horse's "soul" based off of one picture?

So...what, nobody is allowed to have preferences and state those preferences? Everyone is just supposed to spew rainbow unicorn farts out of their mouths about "ZOMG, your horse is so bootiful!!!!" even if they don't agree with it?


If you let someone else's stinky opinion of your horse effect you so deeply, then perhaps it's your problem, not theirs.

Also, anyone who truly loves horses realizes that not all of them are beautiful, inside and out. Some have an amazing look, some have an amazing mind, others are just downright ugly in every way. Recognizing and stating that a horse isn't physically attractive to me doesn't make me any less of a horse lover.

I have a couple of ugly horses, I'm not ashamed to say that they're ugly, and I don't love them any less than my "beautiful" horses.

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post #35 of 70 Old 10-29-2013, 04:12 PM
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I agree smrobs. Even if the comment about bays was meant to be rude who cares. Those of us with the ability to think for ourselves ignored the comment as soon as we read it.
In fact my first and only thought about the comment was " This comment has no place in this conversation".
Its your horse if you like it and thinks it is beautiful then it is.
Perception is reality, and perception is up to the individual. I understand your probably young. Nothing wrong with that. If you allow others to control your thought and emotions then you will have a miserable life in the future.
Relax , ignore rude comments and rude people. They truly do not matter. Such behavior is a symptom low self esteem. You ought to pity the person not be offended. Shalom
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Well I must hate horses then, because I do in fact not see all horses as equal, and I do in fact think some horses are fugly. People have preferences. Why is it even a big deal if someone likes bays? People like different colors.

I agree with smrobs. If you letting this little tiny comment run your life and cause you so much distress that's your problem, not on anyone else. EVERYBODY has preferences. How does that mean you "don't love horses?" How does that make sense? You can't decide if you love a horse's "soul" off of a PICTURE.

I have an appy. I have had SO MANY people tell me "She's cute... For an appaloosa." And I actually appreciate it as a complement! Someone who doesn't like appies thinks mine is cute? She must be awesome!

I guess what I'm trying to say is I think you're completely overreacting. If this is how you react when a single person makes a passing comment you need to steel yourself up, because once you go out and about you'll find all sorts of horse preferences in the horse world. Judging other people and saying they must not actually love horses because they thought one they saw was ugly is absolutely asinine.
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post #37 of 70 Old 10-29-2013, 05:57 PM
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post #38 of 70 Old 10-29-2013, 06:06 PM
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Love your horse :)

I've had that happen before. Most of the comments came from non-horse people so I just don't say anything, there's no real point in arguing with them. They don't know a good horse when they see one! ;)

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post #39 of 70 Old 10-29-2013, 06:23 PM
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I would have probably been stunned into silence initially and then said something like "Whatever. I guess it's a good thing he's MY horse then and not yours."

She is either jealous or trying to be on a power trip and either way, she's messed up. Brush her off and carry on. Who cares what anyone else thinks of your horse? He's YOURS and YOU take care of him, train him, love him, feed him... Not their concern. At all.

As for the horse's "soul..." well, that is just too much anthropomorphism for me. Character, yes. Soul, no.
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Well, I agree that anyone can say anything, within the broad confines of the law, that is true. But the other person can also respond however they want, also within the broad confines of the law.

When I was working in a tack shop, a customer once asked if I had a picture of my new baby foal. I proudly whipped out a picture of my little treasure, and she said, "Hmmm, sh*t brown, too bad."

What!!! I was so offended! Ever the queen of quick repartee, I cut her down to size by replying, "He's bay, not brown."

This was my horse:
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Djinnask, great grandson of the immortal Bask, Great great great grandson of the enchanting Gazon...

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Anyway, I was offended, but I got over it. I never really liked that girl after that though...
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