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        07-06-2010, 11:16 PM
      #41
    Yearling
    It is one of lifes lessons that we learn to watch people fail at the same thing we failed at because most people don't listen to experience, regardless. People have to learn things for themselves. It is a bit odd that your friend does not want to pick out hooves, but she is going to learn quickly that she has to, to keep what will surely become her beloved horse safe. I applaud you for looking out for others. Just know that most often, we as humans don't heed advice of others until after the fact........ Try to switch your feelings to happiness, as you have a choice in how you feel- no one is forcing you one way or the other, your good friend is getting a HORSE, the best thing in the world!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How exciting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
         
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        07-06-2010, 11:21 PM
      #42
    Green Broke
    Thanks Citrus, she came to me yesterday asking for all the advice I can give her and she DOES want my help to find something safe and reliable - We're searching and then we send links we like to my insructor. She basically told me she wants the worlds quietest, perfect horse. I suggested a broom stick ? :)
         
        07-06-2010, 11:52 PM
      #43
    Yearling
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    Originally Posted by ChingazMyBoy    
    Thanks Citrus, she came to me yesterday asking for all the advice I can give her and she DOES want my help to find something safe and reliable - We're searching and then we send links we like to my insructor. She basically told me she wants the worlds quietest, perfect horse. I suggested a broom stick ? :)
    Please make sure you're helping her pick the perfect horse for HER and not for you. Sometimes when we are helping others find the perfect horse for them, we often steer them to what will work best for US. From what you've stated and your "judgment" of her skill level leads me to believe she needs a totally different type of horse than what you need. I feel you are a bit over confident with your skill set while she is lacking confidence, which I'm sorry to say could partially be due to your over confidence making her feel inferior. Even here in cyberspace you come across as incredibly overbearing in situations that honestly don't pertain to you.

    Please, let her, her parents and your instructor make the decision THEY feel is right even if YOU don't. It is not a decision YOU have to live with. Encourage her to learn, just as you did once upon a time. Don't try to come across as a know-it-all or a smarty pants. Be supportive and don't get angry if she gets an opinion from someone other than you or your instructor. This is ultimately HER CHOICE.
         
        07-07-2010, 12:02 AM
      #44
    Green Broke
    Its really hard to explain how together we are finding the perfect horse. Basically we sat down and she wrote a MASSIVE list of everything she MUST have in a horse (shes more picky then me...). Then we both took a copy of the list home and searched, I showed her links, she showed me links.


    Say she showed me this. I'd suggest possibly something more confident, because even she'll admit that she is nervous around horses.

    12 YO gelding.
    Great first horse, but very nervy.
    Ect.
         
        07-07-2010, 04:15 AM
      #45
    Foal
    Personally I would be asking an instructor to advise on finding a suitable horse, or at least someone with much more experience of buying appropriate mounts for someone else. Just because the ad says the right thing, doesn't mean that they will be suitable I drove four hours to view a horse that ticked all the right boxes according to the ad and several telephone conversations with the owner...within thirty seconds I knew that they were trying it on and he wasn't anything like the character they were claiming he was, I refused to even get on!

    I think it would be better if you just wound your neck in and allowed someone more experienced to help your friend; your comment about the broomstick shows a lack of maturity to help properly and any ad that contains the words 'great first horse' 'very nervy' is a contradiction in terms!
         
        07-07-2010, 04:47 AM
      #46
    Green Broke
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Count Jackula    
    Personally I would be asking an instructor to advise on finding a suitable horse, or at least someone with much more experience of buying appropriate mounts for someone else. Just because the ad says the right thing, doesn't mean that they will be suitable I drove four hours to view a horse that ticked all the right boxes according to the ad and several telephone conversations with the owner...within thirty seconds I knew that they were trying it on and he wasn't anything like the character they were claiming he was, I refused to even get on!

    I think it would be better if you just wound your neck in and allowed someone more experienced to help your friend; your comment about the broomstick shows a lack of maturity to help properly and any ad that contains the words 'great first horse' 'very nervy' is a contradiction in terms!
    She's my best friend, we act like this together. Its a joke. She laughed, I laughed.

    What I put in bold is taken EXACTLY from an ad.

    She doesn't have an instructor and I PAY my instructor to help me choose horses, teach me, ect. My instructor is doing HER a favor by looking at links that we look at together, if it looks desent we then give the link to MY instructor and she rings up, ect.
         
        07-07-2010, 05:02 AM
      #47
    Foal
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by ChingazMyBoy    
    She's my best friend, we act like this together. Its a joke. She laughed, I laughed.

    What I put in bold is taken EXACTLY from an ad.

    She doesn't have an instructor and I PAY my instructor to help me choose horses, teach me, ect. My instructor is doing HER a favor by looking at links that we look at together, if it looks desent we then give the link to MY instructor and she rings up, ect.

    Heck, if my best friend was posting rude and opinionated stuff like this...

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    Originally Posted by ChingazMyBoy    
    She's willing to learn but she thinks she is sso much better then she actually is. When she rides she kicks and pulls, she balances on horses mouths, ect. I actually won't let her . Its not that I am trying to be mean but she can't do the bear basics so its going to ruin both her confidence, eect and a good horse.
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    She's willing to learn but not at the same time. She takes part of your advice - the easy stuff. She wants the quick fix. She balances off a horses mouth, she shoves her feet threw stirrups. She can't bridle, saddle or even put a halter on....She threw a tantrum at ME because I suggested getting someone thing older then an 8 year old. She needs something older that's seen the world.
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    Originally Posted by ChingazMyBoy    
    I agree. BUT only spending about 8 hours with horses in her LIFE and she's meant to care for one 24/7.

    About me on the internet behind my back, there would very quickly be a vacancy for the position!!!
         
        07-07-2010, 05:08 AM
      #48
    Green Broke
    I explained the whole thing or what I said and SHOWED her this, she forgave me. She knows I was just trying to look out for her and I am very bad at wording things if you can't tell. It was purley a friend looking out for a friend - she understands that.
         

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