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post #11 of 15 Old 02-24-2011, 09:52 AM
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Speed, sometimes in order to help someone out we open up our own experiences, as hard as it is, to let them know they aren't alone. Good advice, good songs are always best when it has to do with personal experiences!
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post #12 of 15 Old 02-24-2011, 09:53 AM
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When something is emotionally draining, it always helps to talk about it.

I tend to be close mouthed and stoic, and that's not always a good thing. It can lead to break downs, stressing out about mundane things, and health issues.

My family is very open and honest with each other, but my mother's decision to not seek further treatment completely rocked all of us. I was angry and weepy at first, but I really do see the logic. Why should her last years be filled with surgeries, painful recoveries, and no guarantees of success?

It's a double whammy for me as my father's lung cancer has also returned, and like my mother, he has refused any treatment. He'll be 89 this year, has survived quadruple bypass surgery, a stroke, as well as prostate and lung cancer surgeries over the years, so I have no say if he wants his last year or two to be peaceful.

And now y'all know much more about me than even some of my friends.

You want the truth? You can't HANDLE the truth!
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I feel for you SR and you have all the reason on the world to not want to talk about it. To each is own. Its hard to deal with an I'm sure there are many ways to do so
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Thank you, Delete. Again, I just wanted to let you know you're not alone, and counseling may make a world of difference for you.

It's tough trying to be an adult when all you want to do is cry, crawl into a corner, and have your parents tell you everything is going to be all right. Sucks that it doesn't work that way once we're grown, since parents can't keep the boogeymen away anymore.

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Speed Racer, your father must be an amazing man to go through all that and still live to be 89.
Delete, This is the hardest thing you will ever have to go through but at the end of it you will come out a much stronger person. My sister's father died in November of colon cancer, two weeks after he decided to tell everyone he had it. Complete shocker especially to my sister. Now a few weeks ago my best friends mother died of leukemia less than a year after finding out she had it. This has been a rough couple of months for the people I love but all I can do is be there for them whenever they need me. You have people that love you and want to do the same so take advantage, it's ok. The best thing you can do is prepare yourself, don't keep anything bottled up. Letting it out here is a good start.
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