Stressed! Potentially dangerous situation?
Hi guys :)
I'm feeling extremely stressed and worried right now!
I'm supposed to be going to to a show this weekend, the show its two hours away, I'm not competing however I am going along with someone who is to see how my horse is in the show environment.
Neither of these horses have been on a long distance trip in years (I'd consider two hours long distance :) ) And I've never been out with my own horse in the year and a half i've owned him.
Today we practiced loading them, My horse (Beachy) was absolutely fine, both getting on and off. He has to be in the middle bay of the Truck as he is larger and its on more of an angle, so its more spacious (Although I still have to get him on and then back him into it!)
However, their horse was showing some extremely unacceptable and dangerous behavior. After he eventually got on the ramp, he would immediately turn round and start jig jogging, rearing, front footing, and running the owner over. He fell off the ramp several times (not over, just off) And I was extremely surprised he didn't hurt himself.
The owner, Who I am quite close to (i'm only on my learners right now, she lives very close to me and she gives me lifts home) has got an extremely 'soft' approach to handling him. Let me add this horse is only 4 years old, and was brought for a 14 year old rider. Who I'm also close to (although she was advised not to by both of our instructors due to his age). If he bites anyone she will not give him a smack or tell him off, she says its because he's anxious. He rears up on the lead, I've witnessed him almost front footing the girls head when she was leading him to the paddock. I'm generally afraid of this horse, as are several other people.
I used to ride him with the old owner, who admittedly was extremely harsh on him. But he NEVER displayed any of this behavior with her.
I've gotten off track here, Sorry!
I'm just really nervous of putting my horse on after she puts her horse on. Because I am concerned that as soon as we re open the trucks ramp her horse is going to hurt beachy trying to get out. I also don't want to get hurt myself by getting run over. I've offered to help, but she refuses anyones help.
I feel so awful saying these things! But i'm afraid that someone is going to get very hurt by this horse and his manners. I'm also fed up with being bitten and disrespected by him in the paddock. The BO is well aware of his behaviour, but as I said any offering to help is rejected (The BO is also our instructor, who is like family to all of us grazers)
Has anyone else had this problem before?
I hate knowing that sometimes its just best to sit back from these things.
Also, she's recently painted the loading bays in the truck white? Its extremely bright, wouldn't this make the horses more anxious?
I don't know how to politely tell her that I don't want to go with them on Sunday, As I think they were only going if I was, I don't want to hurt anyones feelings or create unnecessary drama!
Sorry about this being an extremely long post!
Thanks for listening to me rant away!