I think I'm reaching a dead end with my instructor...
Don't get me wrong. She is a very nice, patient lady and without a doubt has taught me quite a bit in the year or so I've been riding at that barn. But it's getting to the point where I feel like I'm not going anywhere with improving my riding skills. Not only that but the more I research and read about horses and riding, the more I find myself developing my own opinions and disagreeing with her methods.
For example my half-lease/lesson horse has a very fast, uncomfortable jog. My instructors way to fix this is to pull on the reins and to only release when he slows. We've been at this for months with little improvement using her method.
My idea (which I do outside of lessons when I'm riding on my own) was to circle him until he slowed which got decent results. I brought this up to her, however we have not been doing the circle method in lessons. Just pulling on his face, him getting upset, and me feeling bad. All the circle work I do gets thrown out the window. But I do it her way. After all she is the instructor and this is her horse.
I'm at a loss between emotion and doing what's best for me. On one hand I do have a sort of loyalty with this barn. I've recommended several people to take lessons and go on trail rides with them.
On the other hand my skills are getting stale. I feel like I'm working more on fixing the horse than improving my riding ability. And being that I only started riding a little more than a year ago, I really want to concentrate on my riding in lessons.
Long story short I'm not sure what to do and how to do it. If I do move barns and instructors, I don't want to cause any hurt feelings or tension and I'm not sure how to make the transition.
I guess I'm looking for advice, input, opinions, etc.
Have you ever been in a similar situation?