Im sorry you had a bad experience. But Im glad your not giving up either.
I have a soft spot for younger horses. I have 3 total.
#1 is my old girl. She is 17 this year. She was an ex park horse and VERY HOT! She had some bad training and she has been deemed dangerous.
She put 2 diffrent people in the hospital. I have her in a totally diffrent enviroment and I don't have a problem with her at all, just a little barn sour, but I got her number! I got her given to me because of my understanding of the breed and my abilities to try diffrent things with her. Had she been trained properly she would be worth upwards of $20,000.
She is kind but business like. She knows her job and wants to just get it done already! She is very dominant in the pasture but is very good with her ground manners. She will be with me til she dies or I die. She is one of those horses that only I could love. She was destined for slaughter when I got her. She is very well bred and has major motion, but her history scared everyone but me. I adore her, all of the good and bad. I guess I like trouble!
#2 is my comming 4 yo saddlebred. He is new, my x-mas gift to myself!
He is super friendly and full of curiousity. He can be a little watchfull, but his life has changed significantly, and with time he is relaxing. He has so much try, it isnt funny. He learned to get on a petastal in 1 15 minute session. Now he tries to get all 4 feet up there, but he is too long for that. It takes the friesians I work with weeks to figure it out!
Then there is #3, another comming 4 yo. This one is a 1/2 arabian. She has the kids horse mentality. Nothing bugs her, nothing spooks her and she is a partner in crime kind of mare.
As a 2 yo, when I got her, I could see her potential as a kids horse. She likes people better than other horses and thinks kids are for her. She is also a quick learner, even if a little more stubborn. She is not like the others, she needs leg to keep her going. She is what I call semi-lazy. Doesnt mind walking, loves to trot, too lazy to canter...ya have to push constantly to keep it.
Not all horses are created equal. I have the breeds I have because I prefer horses that use their minds, not just wait for you to figure things out for them. My horses are thinkers and love people. Well....except for #1, she only loves me and everyone else can just take a hike! I think that's why I adore her so much. A horse just for me!