Telling your trainer you're switching to someone else
I've realized recently that I'm not getting much out of my lessons with my (dressage) trainer anymore lately and have decided to start looking for a new trainer. I do like my trainer very much as a person, but I feel like in the past year or so the small advancements that I've made have been me figuring things out on my own. Even before that, I would see photos or video of myself from shows and realize I was sitting in a chair seat, or riding with no bend in my elbows, or posting off my stirrups, etc. and my trainer wasn't pointing it out to me. I've been struggling with getting my horse to bend through his body (among other things) and really made no progress in the year and a half that I've owned him. I'm hoping that someone else can help me out with this more.
I have a lesson set up with a potential new trainer this Saturday morning, and even if I don't end up sticking with this one, odds are good that my current trainer will notice me loading my horse in a trailer and be curious about where we're going.
So I'm wondering- how do you let your trainer know that you're wanting to switch to someone else without damaging the relationship? I've been taking lessons from this particular trainer since I moved to the area about 5 years ago and will continue to see her frequently, since she's the head trainer at my boarding barn. Is there any way to keep this from being awkward?