EEEEK is right - hay isn't cheap. I feed my four a round bale a week - they eat every bite of it and waste very little, thank goodness and I feed goats, too. At $60 a bale, it adds up really fast over the month/year. That is why I walk around in a constant state of 'kiss butt' LOL to hubby since he pays for this so I can stay home with my youngest.
Just talking about this the other day - I have so many SAHM friends who give me a hard time (in a nice way) for this - they complain that I don't spend enough $$ on myself in the form of expensive purses/shoes/clothes - I don't need that stuff! They also say it's crazy that I have to schedule things with him when I want to go somewhere/do something to make sure it isn't going to conflict with his down time (he runs a business and works long hours and is very busy and cherishes his quiet time). If I want to go do something on a whim, I should dump the kids and go. They give me a hard time and tell me I need to put my foot down and wear the pants in the family.
ummm....first of all demanding gets you NO WHERE with a type A personality LOL and second, I'm not so blind as to see the favor he's doing me here...when I decided to stay home, he took over paying for everything without batting a lash. He let me keep all of my critters, my big truck and trailer to meet up with friends from time to time, and he does random fun things like building me a huge chicken coop (and let me stock it with an endless supply of chickens). He built all the raised beds for my garden. he even brought my 100+ yr old piano back to life for my bday one year and even tolerates me playing on it every night. He's a freakin' super hero to me.
They say that isn't enough - I should still be able to do what I want/when I want/spend what I want and not have to answer to anyone - his money is my money - are they kidding?
THe biggest thing? He let me put him on a diet and eats what I feed him and he's lost a nice chunk of weight and is still going down. Now any man who will let you put him on a diet and regulate his Shiner Bock intake is putty in your hands and devoted - why would i want to keep chipping away at it by being demanding and nagging - the man gives me so much already. I love my friends, but they need to give their hubbies a break. A hard-workin' man is a thing to be cherished and taken care of for the long term. Not milked dry, disregarded and tossed to the wind when your done. (allright ladies - don't kill me) LOL!!!