A huge problem is DH's confidence. For someone who can be so militant and assertive with the people in his life, his animals get away with all kinds of crap.
Gunnie needs someone who is confident, consistent, and calm ... none of which DH is right now.
I need to whip my mare into shape and pony Gunnie out and about a couple times a week before DH gets home from work and then we can ride together..
Of course, we still need a saddle that DH feels comfortable in too.... *sigh*
Things are so much easier when you have facilities and equipment you need.