TBJ I am going to give you my Professional opinion.
This is your decision . Not your boy friends.
In fact from what you have posted he sounds a little too manipulative to me.
His claims of how broken hearted he will be and disapointed are IMPO emotional blackmail.
I am not saying he is a bad person, in fact if you like him so will everyone on this forum, but he is young and so are you.
As much as you enjoy riding and with the new horse and your talent a year off to prove yourself is a true gift from your parents. You will not get another after college with a career and marriage. This is the opprotunity of a lifetime. Think very hard and talk it out with your boyfriend and parents.
One hint to know how sincere your boyfriend is. If when discussing your plans instead of encouraging you to live your dream the conversation is about him and his feelings not yours, then he is manipulating you.
That would be a warning to step back and evaluate your relationship.
Good luck. Shalom
Your young so is your boy friend. Take your time growing up and enjoy life
TBJ, I really couldn't say it better than anything that's already been said. I'm a mom too, of teenagers. My oldest is almost 17. I also married my first boyfriend who's been in my life since I was 15. (I'm turning....cough cough, choke....eh hemmmm.....40 next month). So I'm not going to condemn you for wanting to commit young or getting married too soon, yada yada...BUT, my husband has NEVER EVER put any conditions on my plans and dreams. I was a horse nut when he met me. Horses came first from the start. LOL! As a matter of fact, our first date was him coming to my house and mucking out stalls. And believe me, he was NOT a horse person. Still isn't really, but he will do WHATEVER it takes to make me happy to this very day. He's grown into my passion a lot over the years and we're now talking about a man who works for Texas Instruments as an engineer on computer chip robots for a paycheck and is just as capable fixing a New Holland 276 hay baler and bale hay for a happy wife. What I'm trying to say is that if he was truly in love and wanted a happy future with you, he would not start your future by putting this kind of emotional pressure on you. Quite the opposite. He should be encouraging your dreams and say GO GIRL! It sounds like you have a once in a life time opportunity! Oh my gosh, take it!!!!!! I so wished at your age that I could have made a career out of my passion for horses. I never had the avenues to show seriously and go beyond our local activities so I went to school to be a teacher, which is a wonderful career, but a horse career would have been a true dream come true. Like the others said, a year is NOTHING! It'll go by so quickly and if he does love you and wants a life with you, he will be there for you with open arms when you return. And yes, Skype is a wonderful thing! LOL!
If yesterday was hump day, would today be down hill day?
Forgot to reset the alarm after getting DH out of bed this am. Woke up 30 min late. Called, said I just got out of bed, I'll be late. Got here at 10 after the hour, so not bad. I'm pretty low maintainence. Shower, deoderant, brush teeth, put my scrubs, tennis shoes on, brush hair, put back in ponytail, since I don't have time to do anything with it, and leave.! Didn't even have time to braid the hair on my legs, hope no one notices!