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    07-10-2012, 12:47 AM
  #21
Yearling
Okay so the consensus seems to be yes, that you can have more than one. Thanks for all the replies everyone, these are awesome stories!

To answer some questions, no I am not looking for another heart horse. I have a horse right now, but honestly I am not really bonded to him. Sure, I like him okay, but he is no heart horse, at least not so far.

Then again, I don't think I'll let another in for quite some time. Honestly I don't want another one right now. I've been through some tough stuff, but losing her by far took the cake. That was and is, the hardest thing I have ever had to endure.

For those of you wondering, here is her memorial/explanation thread. It's graphic, and has a link to the story of why she is my heart horse.

http://www.horseforum.com/horse-health/feeling-sad-~-need-encouragement-***-83823/

I know my heart isn't ready for another horse like her. I just can't let one in yet, but that's okay. I ain't looking yet either. Just curious as to whether or not its even possible to love another animal as much as I loved that horse. I know if I do find one, it will be different. It was just so much easier when I had that bond to her.

Honestly, I am too freaked out by the thought of losing a heart horse to really find another one, if that makes sense. It freakin' sucks losing them.
     
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    07-10-2012, 12:59 AM
  #22
Weanling
It just takes awhile. Like I said in mine, it was 10 years ago that I lost mine. I came across some old tack of his a few weeks ago that I didn't know that I had and got teary eyed. I still have his halter hanging up, it is not to be used. Horses can play such a large part in our lives and when that really special one comes along, it's hard to let them go. After losing mine, I really kind of ignored my filly for awhile. I had my husband get her up and feed her, I just couldn't bear going to the barn. One day I saw her standing in the lot near Victor's stall, like she was looking for him, and my heart broke. My husband told me that she always stood there and seemed depressed so I started going back and doing with her again after that. It can be hard getting back into something after a loss, but everyday gets easier and you never know, you may find your next heart horse when you aren't even looking.
     
    07-10-2012, 01:06 AM
  #23
Foal
I have been SUPER lucky to be only 18 and to have had 2 heart horses the terrible part was when my parents gave me the ultimatum that made me choose one to keep and one to sell. It was either my 13hh friesian/welsh cob who taught me everything and was my farytail dream horse or my ever eager gorgeous paint who stole my heart. I had to choose and came to the conclusion I would die if I ever sold my paint. In my head I could just see some other person riding her and I would not have that. I do know where my pony(Diva) lives and hope to one day get her back
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    07-10-2012, 06:23 AM
  #24
Showing
CAN you have more than one? Yes. WILL you? Maybe.

My heart horse was my third horse. I cared very much for the first two, but until he came along, I didn't understand the almost mystical connection you could have with an animal.

I loved that horse to the depths of my soul and with all my heart. When he died, my world shattered. I'd identified with being HIS owner, rider and companion for so long, that I didn't kniw who I was without him. We spent 21 years together, and 21 more wouldn't have nearly been enough time. I will miss him forever, and even though he's been gone almost 5 years, I still sometimes shed a tear over him.

I had 2 other horses when he passed, but neither of them have ever meant what he did to me. Oh, I love them and care properly for them, but it's not the same.

I now have JJ, who to my surprise is turning out to be my second heart horse. I was only looking for a nice, pleasant gelding I could foxhunt with. I wasn't looking to replace Conny, because I knew there was no way I ever could.

The connection I have with JJ is different than what I had with Conny though, and I'm okay with that. Conny owned a part of my soul that could never belong to anyone else, and his death didn't change that.

If you try to force the connection, you're bound to fail. You have to just let it happen. You can love and have a great relationship even with the ones who aren't heart horses, but that extra bond makes it all so much better.
     
    07-10-2012, 10:43 AM
  #25
Green Broke
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Originally Posted by Duren    
First of all, **** all of you for making me cry.

I lost my girl Bella in December. I had been out of horses for many years, but as soon as I saw her I fell in love. We were only together 6 months, but it doesnt take long for these attachments to happen.



She is gorgeous!
     
    07-10-2012, 10:50 AM
  #26
Trained
LOL, I had to laugh because, as I've read this thread and responded I sat here and cried. My husband hasn't got a clue what a 'heart' animal is. He loves them and thinks they're great but that soul to soul thing we're talking about here just mystifies him. I dunno? Is it a woman thing?

I loved and partnered with my first heart horse the way only a 13 y.o. Girl can, we did everything together. He was an OTTB and I picked him out at the track, brought him home, fed him up, trained him and showed him and trail rode him for years and years. He was my best friend, my brother, my first boyfriend (heck he was my only REAL boyfriend until I was in my 20's, just could not be bothered as long as I had him), my EVERYTHING, all I needed.

Now I have Patti and several other horses that I love to death, but Patti is just WOW. She's the one I'll snuggle in the lee side of a round bale in the pasture. We've napped for hours like that, with the other horses standing around us, me laying in the hay and Patti snuggled right up against me with my arms around her neck. She will not move a muscle when we're snuggled down like that. She's the one on a cold winter's night that I go out to the barn at midnight and just stand and hold her head against my chest when she sleeps. She's the one that I grab when I need to ride the neighbors cows back onto his property, the one I grab when I get the small tractor stuck in the mud and need a 'tow'. She's the one I ride out on trail and she's the one who took fiendish glee in teaching me that even a little short woman needs to duck branches when she's on a tall horse. Lucky was 14.2, she's 16+, he was the only horse I rode for close to 25 years so it WAS a learning curve.

As a baby Patti would follow me around her stall and nudge me to scritch her butt with the apple picker, that mare loves having her butt scritched like no other horse I've ever known. And she stays laying down in her stall when I come in so I can go over and wrap my arms around her neck and kiss her on that little softie spot right behind her ear. She came over to me as a 2 year old and kept pushing me over to the pipes in her corral one day when I was cleaning. I told her, "If you keep that up, I'm climbing those pipes and going to get up on you.". Even at 2 she was close to 16 hh. She kept it up, I climbed the pipes and sat on her and a total partnership was born. She's never actually been saddle broke, she was born that way. Not to say we don't disagree and have to work on things, she's a very opinionated mare, we certainly do argue on occassion. But with Patti no matter how much she resists or what she does when she first is balky, I'm never afraid that she's going to hurt me. She just doesn't resist like that. And after the first minute or 2 of saying, "NO NO NO!", when I say, "Please? Won't you try just for me?", she says, "OK" and it's all over.

At first I thought it was because I'd raised her that we were so close, but I didn't breed her just got her as a youngl filly. I've had others that I've bred and never got that kind of bond with and was able to sell them to people who wanted a good horse. Patti is the one horse on the property that whenever anyone asks about her I tell them, "She'll be available when you can pry her lead rope out of my cold, dead fingers.". The idea of selling her makes me physically ill, I just can't imagine not having Patti in my life.

I have others who have shown more, won more titles and technically are worth a lot more money, and I love them all. But Patti is the priceless one. We are downsizing now, cutting way back on breeding and have several for sale. There are 5 or 6 that really aren't for sale but only 2 that are abolutely NOT for sale, and of course, Patti is number one on the NOT FOR SALE AT ANY PRICE list.
     
    07-10-2012, 07:39 PM
  #27
Weanling
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Originally Posted by Centaurheart    
I had a lovely older woman once tell me a story/anaology. And its stuck to me to this day. Just for background this lady owns a ton of ponies and rehab horses and has a business doing pony parties for kids and working with the handicapped in Washington State, so she knows horses and knows ponies and knows people with horses and ponies.

She said every woman she's ever known has a horse gland.

Sometimes it lies dormant for ages and then suddenly without rhyme or reason the horse gland will swell up and ooze puss and pulsate and bleed and every other thing you can think of until we go mad and go out and find a new horse. She said that gland is directly connected to a specific horse and a specific need both yours and the animals. And when that perfect storm finally comes together you have an everlasting partnership that goes on past the grave. I've met horses with lost owners that have passed on who still wait every day at their gates for their riders to return and I wonder if they ask the same thing you are asking here.

Its the gland... the horse gland... its the same one horses have for needing new people. And when your ready and the horse is ready, it will wake up and you'd better go looking!
I put this quote on my tumblr, I hope that's okay. (if not, I'll take it down) I wasn't sure who to credit though.
     
    07-10-2012, 09:46 PM
  #28
Weanling
Oh my sweetie, I sit here in tears for you, because I just went back and read your posts. And I know exactly what it feels like to lose your heart horse in such a manner, that's a lot like the way I lost Charm, my plain little Arabian mare that I loved so much. She was fine in the morning and dying in the afternoon, the shock alone is enough to destroy your heart.

You know, having a "heart" horse is not just about loving your horse. I love and adore all of my horses that I have, always have and always will. But there is a different kind of all-out, all encompassing love you have in reserve for that special one, and you just can't make it happen. Most of the time, like it did with me, it catches you unaware. I've only had it with two horses, out of Lord knows how many I've owned in my life, and one dog, even though I have always had several dogs all my life. Who knows what makes that bond? Only God knows....
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    07-10-2012, 10:55 PM
  #29
Weanling
Shhot. I just wrote a huge long essay on how there can be 2 heart horses and h=eveen included my endearing story of meeting my first heart horse, havibng him be ripped away from me and meeting my 2nd (and hopefully last- I do NOT want to go through that whole ordeal again) heart horse, so lets just say this to answer your question-




YES
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    07-11-2012, 12:17 PM
  #30
Yearling
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Originally Posted by Silent one    
Oh my sweetie, I sit here in tears for you, because I just went back and read your posts. And I know exactly what it feels like to lose your heart horse in such a manner, that's a lot like the way I lost Charm, my plain little Arabian mare that I loved so much. She was fine in the morning and dying in the afternoon, the shock alone is enough to destroy your heart.

You know, having a "heart" horse is not just about loving your horse. I love and adore all of my horses that I have, always have and always will. But there is a different kind of all-out, all encompassing love you have in reserve for that special one, and you just can't make it happen. Most of the time, like it did with me, it catches you unaware. I've only had it with two horses, out of Lord knows how many I've owned in my life, and one dog, even though I have always had several dogs all my life. Who knows what makes that bond? Only God knows....

It's amazing isn't it? That when you read someone else's story about losing their heart horse, you just can't help but tear up remembering how that feels and what a loss it truly is. I've done that so many times reading other people's stories. It's nice to know others have been through the same.
     

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