Interesting, just this last weekend my dear hubby advised me to ride the horses first thing in the morning before I get too tired to do it. Before anyone thinks he's an a** , understand that I am going through chemo right now , so his point was a valid one. I took no offense , but told him that I would ride when I was up to it. Instead, I did some yard work and transplanting, so , yup, they were "pasture ponies" this last weekend! Lol.
This has been a switch because I usually ride 4 to 6 days a week. I do have a good schedule that allows me to do this. Time is always a battle when you have many other things to take care of.
When I got the horses and brought them home, Don's biggest concern that I would let all the gardens go and everything else I do, like house work, baking/cooking ect... Well it's been 10 years and he's never complained because the place was let go.
I do pay for all my horse expenses, so that isn't an avenue he'll take with me. He knows how much I enjoy just watching them run in the pastures.
It's always an adjustment when you bring the horses home to live. Tell hubby to let you figure out when you're going to ride and when you will do something else. I'm sure you're not dictating to him when or how much he should be doing something. Of course, a little sugar goes further and easier when having this chat then getting defensive and put out.
Good luck to you, I'm sure you and your husband will come to an understanding.
Be the kind of woman that when your feet hit the floor each morning the devil says, "Oh crap, she's up!".