Originally Posted by Horse racer
I don't have a horse
my parents are always saying no. Which I don't understand....we can afford it, without a doubt. I have to say I have a difficult time loving horses and not owning or riding one. Some days I get kinda down in the dumps because If I ever get a horse it will be when I get out of college in a few years an it seems sooo far away. I'm always afraid that because of not being around horses, my love is just going to fade away...and I just have to tell myself that if its meant to be its meant to be. I love my life with horses in it and can't imagine it without it, but times change and that's what I'm afraid of. I am the care taker of my neighbor's horses and have a good relationship with them. But, I'm not allowed to ride them because they say they're too old. They're 23
They still have some good riding years left. I like being around them but I want to ride SO BAD! It's like having a nice car, but never driving it. Spending time with the horses and petting them only satisfies my love for horses and need to be around them to a certain extent. So, after my parents said an absolute no, they said I could take riding lessons. That got me excited but I was supposed to start back in November and they keep putting it off. The none of my dads friends offered to teach me how to ride for free. Now, lessons that you pay for are COMPLETELY out of the question, even when the guy has taught me everything he can. I guess I just feel stuck
Your situation sounds a lot like mine. Although I'm an adult now and both my parents are deceased, while growing up they always said "no" to a horse. We could have had one- at least a pony. But they wouldn't budge. In fact, they wouldn't let me have ANY pets. We had cats, but none of them were "mine" if you know what I mean.
Since I'm an adult and don't have anyone to tell me "no!" all the time, I've tried to figure out a way to get a horse- even a miniature, or for that matter, a donkey (I rather like donkeys!). But since I rent, it would mean I'd have to board, and I just don't see a way I could swing both the upkeep of an equine as well as boarding fees for it.
There are other problems too- I don't have a car/truck/vehicle, which means I have no way to transport a horse. I'd have to hire someone. And since I rely on public transportation, I'm very limited where I can even go. There is really no bus service out where most of the equestrian facilities are located around here. Which means lessons (which I have no interest in anyway) are beyond my reach as well.
And as for leasing...well, it really doesn't happen around here for some reason. I do remember an ad several months ago from a horse owner looking to lease out, but they specified they wanted 1) a young girl, and 2)the horse would be kept at the girl's parents' property.
So, yeah. Sucks big time, but I have no more contact with horses and don't see any likelihood of it changing anytime soon. So I can relate.