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        08-10-2013, 12:50 PM
    Unhappy is it time to move on?

    Well, I currently share a cob who I love to pieces but I can't do anything I wanted to do when I started sharing her. I wanted to compete in show jumping and do a bit of showing but she's not a good jumper, completely uncooperative in the arena and hard to get going when we're out riding. Except from that she perfect and I love her so much but what do other people think? Is it really time to move on or it there a way around it? I really don't want to leave her but I love jumping and eughh I don't know what do do
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        08-10-2013, 01:16 PM
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    I'm confused. She won't do anything you want to do and is perfect other than that. What else is there that makes her perfect? If she will not do anything more than what she wants to do then she is FAR from perfect.

    Move on since it isn't your horse. Find one that has not been spoiled by allowing her to get away with everything. How long have you been with the cob and have you been letting her get away with not doing anything she doesn't want to do?

    If you have been riding the cob for a long while and letting her get away with little things then you have ownership of her bad habits too. I guess until you can give more info on how long you been with this cob and what kind of training is available we have to assume that any horse you move on to will also wind up doing the same thing this cob is doing. I don't mean to sound harsh, but by the limited info you gave for anyone to go on then this is the interpretation I got from it.
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        08-10-2013, 02:00 PM
    I understand what your saying, she's been getting better in the arena as I've been doing 'ask tell demand' with her and then one day she just decided she wasn't having it, so I had a lessons and it was exhausting but we eventually got her moving. And our hacks our rather fun, when she gets going, I think I need to be a bit firmer so that bit is my fault. As for being perfect, I mean she's well bebehaved on the ground, a real sweatheart, the right size (maybe slightly on the small size...) And I've had her 9 months
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        08-10-2013, 02:05 PM
    You have to choose. What do you love more? The riding discipline or riding this horse?
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        08-10-2013, 02:06 PM
    Green Broke
    Always remember that every single time you interact with any horse you are training them. Whether you are training them good behavior or bad behavior depends on what you know and what you let them get away with.

    Edited to agree with DA about deciding how important this horse is and your desire to do a discipline she is not built for.
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        08-10-2013, 02:30 PM
    DA, I've decided that I love my horse way more than I love jumping, I can always book a jumping lesson on a riding school horse:) and roady, I'll keep that comment in mind when I'm up there tomorrow and hopefully we'll get to a point where I'm not nagging her
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        08-10-2013, 02:40 PM
    Green Broke
    You can't look at it as nagging her. You are teaching her to respect you as the leader in your group and that all decisions are made by you, not by her. If you want her to ride around a tree for an hour then she is to obey. If you do not want her to walk away from you just because you aren't holding the lead rope then she will obey. That is respecting the leader or suffer the consequences just as if she disobeyed a lead horse out in the pasture/wild.
        08-10-2013, 03:20 PM
    Green Broke
    Originally Posted by dommycob    
    DA, I've decided that I love my horse way more than I love jumping, I can always book a jumping lesson on a riding school horse:) and roady, I'll keep that comment in mind when I'm up there tomorrow and hopefully we'll get to a point where I'm not nagging her
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    I feel the same way about my mare too....

    I never nag at her, I ask her politely. Usually if I give her time to think about it, and keep asking her, she'll try.

    Just have fun with her. She just might surprise you.
        08-10-2013, 06:26 PM
    Green Broke
    If it were your horse my advice would be different, but if you're just sharing her I'd probably move on.

    As you're sharing, inevitably you're going to have to give her back one day. It will make you sad now, and it would make you sad if you did it later on. However, if you move onto a new horse now, you have more chance at advancement.

    move on, new horse

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