I am another one for trail to show. You are looking for a nice 4-H horse, not a high level eventer. Its much more important that the horse has a good brain between its ears and is not going to be afraid and spooky. I think you are more likely to find a been there/done that attitude in a trail horse. This horse is more about having something you and your child can ENJOY together. Your child does not have to win every 4-H show they do need to be safe at every show. Its also likely that you will end up as the sole owner/user of this horse in a few years. In which case, your desire for a safe/sane trial horse should not take a backseat to your child show desires (I know that it can be hard for many parents to put their desires on the same plane as their childs, but in this case its okay). In the end, safety and fun are paramount and I think you are more likely to find that in a trail horse but I would not discourage you from looking at show horses. Again, just my thoughts on the issue.