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    07-17-2012, 12:46 PM
  #11
Started
She sounds crazy. Get a new trainer and a new barn far away fripom this woman. However I do think it might be a good idea to ask why's she's acting like this try to work it out perhaps something else is bothering her.
     
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    07-17-2012, 12:46 PM
  #12
Weanling
If I have a child showing who does horrible in their showmanship class, I might tell them that later (if they're an older child who really needs to hear it), but I would NEVER tell any child that they did horrible at ANYTHING while they were at the show and still showing. Talk about a great way to ruin the rest of their show! Its one thing to give pointers for improvement, but an entirely different thing to just tear someone down to the point that they're crying. If I were your mom or dad, I probably would have let this woman have it for doing that to you, but I'm still learning to control my temper! :)
     
    07-17-2012, 12:49 PM
  #13
Yearling
Find a new one.

I had a trainer that was upset that my parents couldn't put the money in for me "to be the next big thing". At the time they were each working 2 jobs. Anyway, we left, we tried to be nice about it and say that it was simply because we couldn't afford to go the route she wanted. No yelling, no accusations. 20 yrs later, the most we can manage when we see each other at shows is a nod.

She was a good trainer in that what she taught was beyond helpful, it was how she went about things. Maybe I was better off w/o her, maybe not. But it wasn't worth losing what I love (riding) by being miserable at her place.

She's not the only trainer in the world, I'm sure there are others, especially ones that are more geared towards YOUR goals
     
    07-17-2012, 12:49 PM
  #14
Weanling
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Originally Posted by xJumperx    
Thank you to those who shared their opinions :) I just feel like maybe she wasn't being that bad, maybe it was just me? I needed to hear from others :/

The only problem is, lessons here are free. Money is *extremely* tight for our family right now. Like, we need 2000 we don't have right now. There is a stable that is close that I -really- want to go to, but we can't afford lessons :/ Even just one a week. The barn offers group lessons for 30 bucks, which is what we would do. I know it's cheap, but we ... can't afford that :( Not now. Dad said that the earliest we could do it would be September. 2 months feels like forever with no lessons x.x I do have my own sweet ponies, but I like having guided instruction too.
Just take your time a wait. It will be worth it. At first, you will probably have to pay for lessons. But once they get to know you, you might be able to work off lessons.
     
    07-17-2012, 12:59 PM
  #15
Yearling
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The only problem is, lessons here are free. Money is *extremely* tight for our family right now. Like, we need 2000 we don't have right now. There is a stable that is close that I -really- want to go to, but we can't afford lessons :/ Even just one a week. The barn offers group lessons for 30 bucks, which is what we would do. I know it's cheap, but we ... can't afford that :( Not now. Dad said that the earliest we could do it would be September. 2 months feels like forever with no lessons x.x I do have my own sweet ponies, but I like having guided instruction too.
Could you try to do every other week, while working some of the price off? That's what I did for a while.

If you can't, have fun with your ponies and wait it out! I'm sure your situation will get better soon :).
     
    07-17-2012, 01:00 PM
  #16
Yearling
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Originally Posted by xJumperx    
Thank you to those who shared their opinions :) I just feel like maybe she wasn't being that bad, maybe it was just me? I needed to hear from others :/

The only problem is, lessons here are free. Money is *extremely* tight for our family right now. Like, we need 2000 we don't have right now. There is a stable that is close that I -really- want to go to, but we can't afford lessons :/ Even just one a week. The barn offers group lessons for 30 bucks, which is what we would do. I know it's cheap, but we ... can't afford that :( Not now. Dad said that the earliest we could do it would be September. 2 months feels like forever with no lessons x.x I do have my own sweet ponies, but I like having guided instruction too.
Lessons are nice, but who says you ABSOLUTELY need them? After I turned 13, I would take maybe one a month and that was when I was going for all sorts of points & awards. I may not have won any world titles, but I placed just as well as the kids that had lessons every week.
     
    07-17-2012, 01:00 PM
  #17
Showing
Two months in the scheme of things is a very short time.

If you continue to deal with the devil, don't be surprised when you get burned. No reason to stay with her just because she's doing something for you for free.
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    07-17-2012, 01:11 PM
  #18
Foal
Don't go back to that person. She sounds horrible.

Riding is supposed to be fun. Riding is supposed to boost you up. Give you confidence in ways you couldn't get anywhere else. Not make you feel like crap and cry.

See if you could work something out with that other barn. Work for lessons. And if not, in the meantime, you have your horse!
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    07-17-2012, 01:18 PM
  #19
Weanling
Yes, you need to find a new trainer! Sounds like this one has lost her interest in working with you and didn't express it in the best way. She will probably regret losing your help later when she can't get all her chores finished by herself!

You will probably be able to find someone who appreciates all the hard work you do! Have FUN! It's not worth being stressed out.
     
    07-17-2012, 01:27 PM
  #20
Foal
Wow wow wowww, I admire you for being so cool about the whole thing, really. You don't sound immature to me at all and certainly not ungrateful. What a sad shame! She sounds crazy to me too. It's sad that her personality is so disagreeable because the arrangement you have seems ideal other than that--so I totally understand you not wanting to leave. You shouldn't have to put up with that kind of abuse though--yes, there may be worse forms of abuse out there, but that doesn't mean this kind can't do its share of damage. Often it's the minor but persistent forms of abuse that can do the most damage, because it slowly erodes you without your hardly noticing.

I also TOTALLY understand how you feel about the money thing. I think a lot of us are feeling that kind of pain. I'm also trying to find a work<=>ride etc. situation, but my location makes that a bit difficult at this point. However, I'm SURE there are people willing to do that kind of arrangement out there--and chances are they're far nicer than this person. Just get out of there.

If you have a horse already, then you'll be OK I think while you search for a new trainer. You can learn a lot from your horse without a trainer even, from what I understand, and it may prove to be an interesting period of growth for you while you're sorting things out on the other end.

Good luck, and I hope things improve fast!
     

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