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post #31 of 61 Old 07-17-2012, 02:27 PM
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Yeah.. I mean, I do agree that there is a way of saying things. It's hard to analyze the situation without knowing Beth and her life. It could be a variety of things. She could honestly think what she is saying, or she could just be frustrated about something else and be taking it out on you.

If you really feel like it is worth it and your heart is in it and you are just ready to push on, just kind of think of it as an argument and keep doing what you are doing. But don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. That doesn't mean you have to be ruuuuude,but don't let anyone discriminate against you and give you crap that you don't deserve. Even if it's just a simple, "you know, I work really hard for you and I don't think that was a very nice comment." That sounds actually disrespectful, but you get what I'm saying. If she is being unreasonable, try to speak to her about it.

I would suggest trying your hardest to develop a good strong relationship with your trainer. Trust me. It makes the world spin smoother.

Good luck. Say a prayer. I hope it goes well.

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post #32 of 61 Old 07-18-2012, 09:29 AM Thread Starter
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Well, I've done it!!

Today, when I got there, she proceeded to lecture me and say that if I didn't put more energy in, I would never be a good rider, because apparently I am lazy ...

I simply told her maybe we should just stop. That if she had so many bad things to say about me, that I should find a diffirent stable that would be a little more in the direction I want to go.

So I left early and I'm not going back!

Funny ... I thought I would feel like

But I really feel like

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post #33 of 61 Old 07-18-2012, 09:31 AM
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If that's the way you feel, then it was time to leave.

You want the truth? You can't HANDLE the truth!
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post #34 of 61 Old 07-18-2012, 10:43 AM Thread Starter
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Thank you, I think I am realizing that now :) I can't wait to go tour Canterbury next Wed.! The girl who trains sounds really nice, and trains everything from bare basics to advanced, which is the lesson I'm going to watch. This trainer really wasn't a trainer - a private sort of deal, helping me ride. At Canterbury, they have 3 diffirent trainers, and lessons every day of the week. If I don't like 1 trainer, I just pick another one And one of the biggest pluses - the trainer I had before the one I JUST broke up with takes lessons here! I obviously wouldn't be in the same lessons or anything, I just think it's cool that this center could take us that far! Thank you so much to every single person who put input into this ^.^
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post #35 of 61 Old 07-18-2012, 12:07 PM
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Well, I've done it!!
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Funny ... I thought I would feel like

But I really feel like
That's how you know you've really made the right choice. The 800 lb gorilla gets up off your back and you can breathe again. Good job!
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post #36 of 61 Old 07-18-2012, 12:33 PM
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yay for not going back! You'll be better off! What did she say after you said that?
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post #37 of 61 Old 07-18-2012, 12:41 PM
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im glad you left !

I was recently in a very similar situation with my former supervisor, it feels good to get out =]

Good luck at your new barn =D

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post #38 of 61 Old 07-18-2012, 01:03 PM Thread Starter
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Thank You Gypsy :)

She was just kind of, "well, okay, that's fine. I'll drive you home now." And I left :p

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post #39 of 61 Old 07-18-2012, 01:07 PM
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I agree with everyone,here and I'll go one further as a MOTHER oh no she would NOT talk to my daughter like that, I had some really really tough trainers growing up, and I just knew that is what it takes to get where you want to go! But I NEVER ever was spoken to like that! The one thing I would do for your own piece of mind ...take a look back is there something that maybe she might have taken as "you don't care" or "not taking seriously" whatever she said...I'm not in any way saying you did! Or saying she was right, she is without a doubt a rude inmature idiot. But look back so that you can be sure this wont happen again with someone that doesnt have a personality disorder!
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post #40 of 61 Old 07-18-2012, 01:15 PM
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AHAHAHAHA She thought she had you!!! That you would put up witha all her abuse just to take lessons! GGGGRRRROWWWLLLL! I hate it when people think because you don't have money you have to put up with thier crap! Well gooood for you !!! You took charge of the situation and very maturly took care of business and you will be sooooo much better off for it, not just today, but in your life!!! Goood Girl I AM SOOOO PROUD OF YOU !!! THAT IS THE MARK OF MATURITY!!!
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