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        08-29-2011, 03:53 PM
    Green Broke

    Alwaysbehind referred me to this thread.

    I want to tell you about my experience which is going on RIGHT NOW, about working with a trainer and gaining confidence. :)

    I adopted a rescue horse in January who had BIG TIME issues with a lot of things, including gear (bits, saddles, etc.) I worked with a saddle fitter. I did ground work with him from Jan to about June and finally rode him in the round pen a few times. After that I was forced to move him to a boarding stable, so I took it all very slowly. We were doing great, and the fitter came out for one last look to make sure everything was fine. BOOM, bucking bronco. It was totally unexpected and the first time he ever acted even remotely dangerous.

    You can bet it scared the bejeezus out of me. At the advice of the lovely ladies of this forum I hired a trainer. I was 100% honest about my fear issues. I have been working with her for weeks and we've come a LONG way. I was honestly too afraid to even get on him for a few weeks. My trainer rode him...so yeah. :) Now we're doing a lot of trot work, inside and outside, bending, etc. I took him on a trial 'walk' this weekend, where I led him with two other horses that were being ridden. I think he would have been fine if I would have ridden.

    PM me if you want to pick my brain or anything.
    I think it was the best thing I could have done for me AND my horse. :)

    I hope to be on the trail by the end of fall or next spring.
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        08-29-2011, 04:15 PM
    Green Broke
    I agree with the others. A good trainer can give you the tools you need to work through the fear. They will also be able to help you not pass that fear on to your horse. No they can't reach into your brain and take it away, but they certainly can point you in the right direction and even hold your hand if necessary to help you get past it and back into enjoying your horse.
        08-29-2011, 05:57 PM
    At this point I am a little nervous of what the trainer will say when I call her. What if she's too busy? What if she doesn't offer lessons at all? What if she says the same thing as dad? She's a really really good trainer and rider, and I want so badly to learn from her; I'm just scared of rejection because then it will for sure be the end and I will have no choice but to sell. I know that if I never try then I'll never know, but somehow in my brain, I'm telling myself that maybe it's better not knowing. I'm so nervous about calling her 'cause I have no idea what sort of response I'm going to get.

    I'm just a shy and nervous person. I sort of anger myself at times.
        08-29-2011, 06:08 PM
    You've already set yourself up for defeat before you've started, with that attitude.

    You won't know anything until you actually CALL the trainer. If you're going to talk yourself out of even doing that, then yes, you'll never overcome your issues and you should get out of horses completely.
        08-29-2011, 06:12 PM
    Green Broke
    The worst thing she can tell you is no, she doesn't do lessons. But I'd be inclined to think she could give you some leads on people to contact if she can't help. What have you really got to lose? If she can't help you, then she can't help you, but you will never know until you muster up the nerve to give her a call.
        08-29-2011, 06:14 PM
    Green Broke
    I agree with Speed. You won't know until you make the call. Even if this trainer doesn't help maybe they can point you in the direction of someone who can. Don't talk yourself out of it because you will never get anywhere with that attitude. You will loose out in many situations in life if you doubt everything like that.
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        08-29-2011, 06:39 PM
    Green Broke
    You'll find that most trainers are pretty kind and understanding.
    They also want your money...you are paying them for a service.
    To be rude is not a good idea for a trainer, as much of it is word of mouth.
        08-29-2011, 06:40 PM
    No trainer can help your fears. You have to get over them on you own! It is a long hard thing to do but it is so Amazzzing when you have the confidence back!
    You sound like me. Only 4 months ago did I make my mined up to overcome. I had been on a horse that bucked me off, and another that almost kicked me in the head!
    I was so scared to even go around him. And I rode this horse who bucked when you lope her! I was so scared to lope. I would get shaky unable to do what I wanted to do. I moved and got a horse. She was as sweet at anything. But there was only one thing I wanted to do. RUN!!!! One day when I went out to ride .i was trotting. And horse knew it was time for me. She took off in a lope. And that day changed me. Now I am ridding bear back in a run and training horses. Please what ever you do don't give up!!!!!!!!!! Put your mined to do what you want to do Don't let fear control you!!!!! And don't sell your horse!
        08-29-2011, 08:05 PM
    It also helps to read books on confidence! I did and it helped...what kinda horse do ya have?
        08-29-2011, 08:55 PM
    I was not confident with my horse so I sent her to training..she came back and I still couldnt make her do all what I wanted my confidence took nose dive....(i just got back into riding after 20yrs) so from advice from, well this sight and the people who run our local feed store I found a trainer for me...you may want to shop around when looking for a trainer...make sure he/she fits you, and the way you learn but YES from experience it makes a world of differance...when you are confident your horse will trust you and then follow you your direction....also when I 1st started back out riding I began in the round pen....i know that helped me feel confortable....dont give up once your there you'll be soooo happy you wont regret it

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