I was just imagining myself requesting, in writing, a list of agreed upon expectations between my trainer and myself and I got anxious about such just sitting here at home!
My husband and I have been talking a lot lately about the "two types" of people in the world; those who go out and GET WHAT THEY DESERVE from others with assertiveness, (not aggression, of course) & with a knowledge that they have worked hard, put a lot of themselves into xyz, and thus, feel no shame in setting out clear expectations for what they feel they are as a result entitled to. Then there are those like myself, and to some degree, my husband (in certain business situations). I feel ashamed to "go after that which is mine", to push an issue in my favor when I KNOW IT IS DESERVED, not just an entitlement because I exsist on the planet and breathe air (I can't STAND THAT KIND of entitlement!)...the point is, the first type of person is the one who gets ahead in life, and the second type (much like I have lived for 38 years!) Is the sort happy to subsist on the scraps thrown to me by those who do so at their discretion. An awful way to live!! Especially IF YOU, LIKE ME, work your butt off and give your all to everything you do, no matter what!
The bottom line is that I am READY, FINALLY, to enter the world with attitude number one, and if I am paying for something, I intend to get my fair share! If I am working toward something and doing a great job, I no longer am willing to let OTHERS DICTATE HOW AND TO WHAT DEGREE I AM RECOGNIZED for such. I have no intention, desire, nor the personality to bulldoze my way through life, and that is not what I am at all suggesting.
Simply put, if I believe I am morally obligated to receive a service, a level of recognition, or simply to be heard on something, I intend to SPEAK UP, and make things happen in my life.
I was just thinking about what a challenge it would be for me to carry out so many of the great suggestions people here on this forum make to those posting that they have gotten themselves in the sort of situations which require attitude #1 in my above scenario, and whether others, like myself, would find following through with such suggestions inwardly difficult, AND if it is because they, like me, have (until NOW, DAMMIT!) been living a life where OTHERS DECIDE what they will "get" from life, and when it will come.
Those who go far in this world are those who believe in their own abilities, in their moral rightness, and in treating others with the same degree of fairness and truth. I plan to do such in all situations from now on, despite the fact that exercising those muscles from an emotional standpoint will certainly be challenging. I am up to this challenge because I know I deserve all the good things others who work as hard and as diligently as I do are entitled to...now it is just a matter of doing it. Is this something you, too, have struggled with, OP? Anyone else? Do you think this is WHY people such as myself often get into these challenging situations? I know it seems off-topic, but in a lot of ways, I believe this issue is at the ROOT of many of these scenarios, such as what the OP is dealing with now with her trainer!
Thanks for hearing me out on this, folks! :°}
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