Well, I talked to my trainer today and I feel much, much better. I followed everyones advice and told her I simply couldn't afford the upcoming large show if I went with the barn, I couldn't afford the dayfee, and my finances are really tight right now so I needed to save where I could.
We didn't get into the last show as after stepping back and reviewing your posts, I realized that her fee wasn't worth arguing over as she did get my mare up there, get my tack in the stall, get me registered and my numbers for me, and got my horse home... and I am responsible as well for not telling her at the show that I wanted to review the patterns, etc...
She gave me a hug, told me she understood completely, and that I was welcome to stall with the barn at any of the upcoming shows and haul up together, share the tack room, etc... she told me she was pretty busy with her young horses and her summer clients, and I was more than able to compete successfully without that level of guidance, but if I needed help to be sure to ask for it. I was quite relieved... I do enjoy riding with her and did NOT want any drama.
So all is well, I am going to get my mare ready for congress and hope we have enough solids to get some points there... I am studying all the youtube showmanship videos then enlisting my horsejudging champion daughter to come mercilessly critique me... I am pretty excited.
And thanks, everyone, for your complements and suggestions, I just love this board, it helps to see all the differing views :)
Last, Franknbeans, I am glad you know what you want and are pursuing it... I love freestyle reining and sounds like you could have a really fun time doing that -
Sooo glad things worked out so well for you Ace!! Glad you were honest, open, AND FAIR (I agree with you not bringing up the show/$170.00 totally)...& it still worked out to your advantage!
I love the part about your daughter...kids are GREAT about being honest about ALL of our, um, imperfections! :0)
Best of luck to you!! I imagine you will go VERY FAR! :0) Posted via Mobile Device