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post #1 of 12 Old 02-10-2012, 12:53 AM Thread Starter
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Trouble Deciding if I should Sell

My Mare has been with me half my life and all of hers and she is the one who taught me to ride and handle a very "wild" stubborn horse. I rescued her from someone I knew when they were neglecting her and she's been with me since though I've known her since the day after she was born. I love her to death and I really don't want to sell her but I feel like I'm being selfish. I've developed an allergy to normal straight-haired horses and don't go out to see her as often as I used to and the boarding facility she has been at the last 7 years has degraded drastically in quality. She's perfectly healthy, but with the lack of my attention, her attitude is returning to its once stubborn attitude because the farm owners don't enforce "Rules" with the horses. Mostly let them do whatever and leave the training to the owners. I've been through so much with her and wouldn't even think of selling if I had my own property to keep her on but, am I being selfish keeping her and letting her just not be ridden more than once every couple weeks? I could really use help from people who have been through this before. Crying just thinking about losing her, but also because I might be being unfair to her.





Also thinking about selling my mini stallion (Registered but I don't posess papers. Was bought as Pet Quality over 4 years ago) Not sure yet, but not as torn with him as I know for a fact I'm being unfair to him. About %90 on the decision with him.



So Torn. Anyone got any advice?
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post #2 of 12 Old 02-10-2012, 04:17 AM
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Why not find someone that may want to work with your horse for free. I know when I was younger I would ride anything and everything.

Is she suitable for an intermediate rider to handle?
Do you have any horsey friends that you trust would handle her properly and how you would?
This would be something you could do to help the situation for the time being until you find some place else to keep her or can really let her go.
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post #3 of 12 Old 02-10-2012, 12:20 PM
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I agree, maybe find someone to lease her? A partial lease sounds like it would work for you. She is gorgeous btw :)
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post #4 of 12 Old 02-10-2012, 12:22 PM
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Horses have been pasture ornaments for millenia and are quite content with that, as long as there's another horse around. It is unfair to expect a horse to live alone since their whole psyche is based around the herd.
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post #5 of 12 Old 02-10-2012, 12:41 PM
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I would work on finding her a good home, even if you have to give her away. That way you can hopefully be more choosey where she goes. You said too that the barn is also going downhill so it might be time to look and before her stubborness really comes back. Others will love her just as much and it's not like you are abandoning her. Finding her a good home is actually very responsible.
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post #6 of 12 Old 02-10-2012, 01:25 PM
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that horse is perfectly happy hanging out, not the best if you want to ride her again. But it isnt really "Unfair" not to ride one. But if all you are doing is seeing her on rare occasion and paying bills, both of you guys may be better off if you sell her. Id get on her and ride her to keep her fit to ride and find her a home.
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post #7 of 12 Old 02-10-2012, 03:44 PM
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Can you fit that little guy in a box and mail him to me? This is what I mean, that every horse I'm really drawn to may as well be on the moon.
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post #8 of 12 Old 02-10-2012, 04:28 PM
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I don't know you from Adam. I look at your photos of two horses - neither of which appears to be neglected, unless you took the photos a long time ago.

You write as a horse lover. There is a touch of despair in your writing.
But I'll say this - noone who once gets the bug of horses in their blood is ever free of them. They have a way of haunting you.

It strikes me you need to find someone to share your horses with - if you give them away, or sell them and either of them fall on hard times, it will eat away at you for years to come and maybe longer.

Go spend a day playing with your four legged dependents. Regain the joy, the fun the touch, the smell, the sweat. The love.

And find some human to play with your horses with you. There are lots of eager young women looking to share a horse.

If you have to then look for an antidote to your allergy.

But don't give up your horses. They have a way of living in your heart and you can't turn them out into the cold.

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post #9 of 12 Old 02-10-2012, 04:45 PM
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Nice horses but allergies can be really bad for you. My little niece was very allergic to horses which we found out when her throat closed up and had to rush her to the hospital. Not a fun afternoon.

Find you horses a good home and you may consider getting a Curly horse. They are supposed to be hypoallergenic and then you could still be around a horse. Good luck and I am so sorry you are in this position. I have allergies myself so I feel for you.

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Nice horses but allergies can be really bad for you. My little niece was very allergic to horses which we found out when her throat closed up and had to rush her to the hospital. Not a fun afternoon.

Find you horses a good home and you may consider getting a Curly horse. They are supposed to be hypoallergenic and then you could still be around a horse. Good luck and I am so sorry you are in this position. I have allergies myself so I feel for you.
I actually have a Curly(She's in my profile picture) and she is wonderful! I can personally vouch for their Hypoallergenic nature. Not a single reaction for me, not that people already allergic to horse can't also have a separate allergy to the curlies. To that, They actually lack a protein normal horses have that is suspected to be the cause of horse allergies. But I'm not deathly allergic, just enough to make me miserable sometimes (Not every time)

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