Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: Central California
Ut, oh. That's a situation none of us want to be in. :(
This has happened to my friend. It hasn't gotten quite as bad as what you have described yet, but dangerous nonetheless. Her thing has become rearing.
It's hard to give advice without seeing you two together. Is there any way you can call a trainer (with good references) out to be by your side and give tips on things you might not be seeing? It's usually easier from someone on the outside to catch certain things that can be gone about a bit differently.
What kind of set-up do you have? Is there an arena or pasture-like run in when your horse can run but not get too far away?
It sounds like a bigger effort to establish your dominance needs to occur. Everyone does it differently, but I chase horses in their pasture with a lunge whip (I don't hit them with it, it's just an extension of my arm). In the wild, a herd leader will chase away a horse for nonsense. Be that horse. Let it be known who's boss. When you see your horse stop, lower his head, and mouthe, you can approach. If there is any sign of aggression or if he pulls away from you when you go to pet him, start the chase right back up.
My mare has been pushy in the past during feeding time. I did the same thing, but protected her feed with the lunge whip (again, not hitting) until she gave up. I decided when she could approach the feeder.
Dominance in the pasture is number one. Then, you can more safely establish dominance when she's on a lead.
"All I pay my psychiatrist is the cost of feed and hay, and she'll listen to me allll day."