Turns out, I was never strong enough to leave...What was I thinking! - The Horse Forum
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post #1 of 28 Old 08-17-2012, 04:14 AM Thread Starter
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Turns out, I was never strong enough to leave...What was I thinking!

There was a point in my life, not long ago, that I thought "I am strong enough to be without my horses for a short period of time." I stand corrected. Nothing has crumbled this cowgirl to her knees quicker then being apart from her horses!! I got married this past december, my husband is in the Army and stationed in Hawaii. We are both from Southern Oregon. I moved here to be with him in February. I will tell you what, I feel like my arms have been cut off without my girls!! Literally, I have questions everything about myself without them. My intelligence, my purpose, my skills in life, my decision to move here, literally everything. I find that I have a hard time coping with things without my "happy place." I went home to visit in May/June. I took a video just sitting on the floor in my horses stall so I could have it when I came back to Hawaii. Walking away from my mares stall was the number 1 hardest thing I have ever done, worse the second time around because I knew how hard it was to be here without her. Just goes to show, that even "paradise" is hell without my horses. I now volunteer at the local rescue ranch. I get my "horse" fix there, and really enjoy it. But nothing will ever take the place of the bond I have with my own horses. They practically raised me for crying out loud!! lol
***Moral of the story***
If you think you can live without your horses...don't do it. And if your wise enough to know you can't, go out and hug them, kiss them, and love on them....because somewhere in the world, there is a girl and her horse separated for whatever reason. And I can honestly say, that girls heart is breaking in half without her four legged soul mate!!
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post #2 of 28 Old 08-17-2012, 04:27 AM
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I know your pain just being with out my guy for 2 months was hard . I hope some day you will bring your horse over to Hawaii ,dose your husband know ?

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post #3 of 28 Old 08-17-2012, 04:36 AM Thread Starter
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Yes he knows. We only have about 15 months left here, and then he's getting out. I knew it wouldn't be too long, but I never thought it would be this hard!!!
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post #4 of 28 Old 08-17-2012, 04:45 AM
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hang in there time will go by fast and you will be with your horse again god bless
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post #5 of 28 Old 08-17-2012, 05:01 AM Thread Starter
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Thank you so much! God bless you too :)
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post #6 of 28 Old 08-17-2012, 06:42 AM
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Non horsey folks just dont seem to understand the bond that can develop between a horse and its leader..

Recently I lost one of my favourite horses to colic... I am a mans man..... but cried and cried when I learn't he had died...

all my horses have managed to get under my skin so to speak......as over time we have all been on a learning journey and we have so much history along this journey... My bond is virtually unbreakable. I will protect them in face of anything....!
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post #7 of 28 Old 08-17-2012, 08:04 AM
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They're an addiction, like drugs. They give us our highs and they also keep us mellow. When they're ill, they are our downers.

They also keep us broke and we go to extreme lengths to support our habit.
But it's a good habit to have. Non-horse people just don't understand.
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post #8 of 28 Old 08-17-2012, 11:09 AM
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aww, that sucks. In another thread I asked you if traveling with your husband being in the army is tough... um, disregard that, you've answered it already!

I will go love on my girl especially for you today...
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post #9 of 28 Old 08-17-2012, 01:24 PM
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Big thanks to all of the military people and their families who sacrifice so much to serve this country.
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post #10 of 28 Old 08-17-2012, 02:06 PM
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thank you for sharing your feelings, I'm sure that was emotional to do. The rescue horses that you are working with are blessed to have you be a part of their journey. It might not feel like its enough for you but it is really important for them. Your understanding because you have been touched by a horses soul will change each and every horses life that you come in contact with. It can also give you the strength to make these 15months fly by. stay strong..live strong!
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