Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: Washington, USA.
Ugh. Sharing a barn!?!
Kinda long, sorry. =|
I've got awful accustomed to having the barn to myself. I have Gracie and Ricci, one stall apiece, leaving a hay/feed room, and a run in stall for the days and summer nights when they are outside. The stall is their primary shelter, the only other one is basically just a roof.
This last summer, my friend was bringing her horse back from Montana where they went to school. She and her horse both lived in the area prior to school. My friend asked if she could keep her horse with mine for the summer. She was planning on returning to Montana in August. I figured it would be fine, since everyone would be outside 24/7 anyway for the summer, and hey, it was just for two and a half months. She fed one time a day, I fed the other. But then the end of July rolls around and my friend has decided she doesn't want to go back to Montana.
And where does that put me? I couldn't kick her out after she already spent the summer there. But I didn't plan on another horse this winter. The barn really isn't set up for that. Sure, I have a third stall, but that is the primary shelter for my horses, it stays open to the pasture. To stall my friends horse at night this winter would mean bedding, which would mean we'd have to more or less remove the bedding each morning and put it back at night so the horses could come in and out during the day. Plus, it's ridiculously unnecessary, her horse has never been stalled for more than a night or two at a time her whole life, nor does she like being stalled.
It's mostly like trying to run a business with a friend. We have different ideas, and it's just not working anymore. Winter changes things. But what can I do? I tried to talk to her about this winter, explaining to her why I think her horse should just be left in the pasture and run in this winter and I explained why it was inconvenient to do anything otherwise. I explained how I wasn't planning on another horse this winter, and how I thought it would be best for all parties. Keep in mind that my friend has already talked to me about how rare it was for her horse to be in a stall, and that the one time she put her in a stall in Montana, her horse ended up banging herself up. There was also the 4th of July when I suggested we bring everyone inside for the night because the barn is right next to a big fireworks display place. She was so nervous to bring her horse in, it took about two weeks to convince her. So after I explained my reasoning, she gets all pissed about how unfair it is and how she wanted her horse stalled at night this winter, and then ranted about why it couldn't be one of my two horses [Ricci is shaved, she's lived in that barn her whole life, it's more hers than anyone else's, she has a big stall, and she loves being in it. Gracie is a baby, I don't trust her to be outside by herself without causing damage to herself or the property.] And that's totally besides the point, it's not MY barn, the lady who sold me Ricci owns it, but I'm basically the barn manager, I run it, I've been running it for like three years.
I'm just so frustrated! It's a private barn, not a big boarding facility. I just feel so inconvenienced with her horse being here still. I was more or less trapped into the position, and I'm pissed about it. I know my friend wasn't planning on staying at the barn for forever, but I just don't see how it'll work this winter. It would be so much easier for her to just move her horse, but saying that to my friend could very likely end our friendship, and I don't want that to happen. Ugh, it just sucks. Sorry for such a long vent. Thanks to anyone who read through the whole thing. And anyone who responds, please keep all your advice and opinions friendly and constructive, thanks.
"Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds."