Attempt to quickly summarize my situation: I've worked closely and passionately with horses pretty much my whole life, and I'm 18, so of course I don't claim to be the greatest of all or anything, but I know my way around horses VERY well. The first horse I officially owned, Rocky, was totally green and spoiled rotten when I got him. He bit (HARD.), bucked, took off with riders, and all in all would refuse to work with people and required several huge whacks in the butt just to get him to move off, let alone actually move quickly. I got him and worked with him for a few years, totally on my own, and sold him back out an extremely well-behaved, finely-tuned, incredibly soft and willing partner who you could literally do anything with. Literally, most of the time I rode him I didn't even have to touch the reins because he'd do anything, including a 180 turn or even the start of a turn-around, off of very soft leg pressure, no spurs, no crops, no nothing.
I sold him to try something new. I bought an experienced hunter jumper TB who I thought would be a good match for me, but after working with him with a great trainer for about a year, we just really weren't working out, and I was not comfortable riding him at all. I just get along a lot better with the Western type of horse, it's just my way. I sold him off to a friend who loves him and works great with him.
After that I've been stuck horseless for awhile because my parents can't afford to support a horse for me anymore and I'm struggling greatly to find a job so I can get one myself.
Because I don't have a horse right now, I haven't been out to the barn (the same barn I've always boarded at, ever since I got Rocky), but my mom still keeps her horse there. She still keeps in touch will all of the same people I've always known there (pretty much all older women, I'm one of like two people there under the age of 25)
I've always been pretty highly respected there for my horsemanship with my first horse, but apparently lately some people at and around the barn are starting all of this crap that I'm a green rider, based on tiny amounts of work that they saw me do with my TB, and actually somehow convincing people who knew me way before the TB (they must have forgotten?)
And what's worse, there was one lady who had a horse I was possibly going to be able to work with, one really quite a bit like my Rocky was but a little bit more challenging, and because of these rumours she appears to have decided against letting me work with her. I understand it's her horse and her choice, so I do respect her decision and definitely won't give her any mouth for it, but she was all ready to let me work with her until all of this crap started up. I was really excited about that opportunity, too, because I really love to have a challenge but was hoping to get a more experienced horse next, so I could teach my girlfriend to ride...not to mention I'm uncertain when I'll be able to get that next horse anyway.
This is just really frustrating for me. I know this shouldn't bother me because the horses I work with, the people who really know me, and I all know better than that, but it's still really frustrating. I can promise just about anyone on Earth could come across at least one horse that would inexplicably stump them, yet just because I'm younger (and also not pushy and all over the place like these women are) I'm automatically green because of it. I would never claim to be super amazing, I have a ton left to learn, but my natural ability with horses has always been highly respected. Why is that any different now? At least I was willing to admit he wasn't right for me and sold him as soon as I knew.
I'm trying to be "the better woman" here and just know that I will prove them wrong once I get my next project horse, but I've just got to let off a bit of steam, I've been having a lot of stress in my life and this is exactly what I don't need right now
But again, I'm very sorry for ranting, I guess I just need some horse-friendly ears to hear my problems because most of my friends aren't horsey and just don't get it...